Giving ex another chance?

[HoneyBon]

Has anyone given an ex another chance? Particularly interested if you have been split up for a number of years? Can it ever work again? I can't see myself meeting anyone else and haven't in all this time, admittedly I'm probably lonely, I have no family or friends and he was the only person I had in my life that was there for me. Can you ever go back? Have you?

I know someone who has just married their childhood sweetheart. They were together throughout their teens into their early twenties, even bought a house. They didn't have DC together.
They went onto marry others (and had 1DC each, who are adults) but were single again in their early fifties when they reunited and have been together for several years now.
I doubt they'd have split if they'd been older when they met. They mutually split because they felt they were too young to settle down and thought the grass was greener...

It's uncommon yes but it does happen as the thread linked proved many are in the situation I'm not the only person.

The other thread shows it's not that unusual

Ok op

so the fact that there are others also as lonely as you because you have no one in your life - makes you feel better?

It is irrelevant and shouldn’t stop you for trying to carve out some kind of life that doesn’t involve you going back to an ex that appears to have disintegrated

Ok op we will go with it “not being that unusual” if you wish

My ex has expressed an interest in getting back together I would not have posted if he hadn’t. There’s lot of reasons why people find themselves without any friends how would you know how many people were in this situation

And you’ve expressed zero enthusiasm or love or excitement about that prospect.

Only that you currently have no friend or family or colleagues

I think you should focus on other things.
I have just become single and I am starting weight training because of my age. From 40 onwards women lose bone density and muscle.
Anyway I appreciate that is quite random but if you are currently single and work from home you have the chance to do any things you are interested in. A gym class, a book group. Whatever you are interested in. You will gradually meet people going hobby’s.

Then if you still want to get back with him then do it but also keep up your other interests.

I mean, obviously you're not the only person in the world to have no friends, that's not what I meant.

But one thread on one forum does back up the fact that it's fairly unusual.