Competitive SIL, how to handle?

[DustyTV]

I have namechanged as I'm not sure if SIL comes on here.

I will try to keep this brief...here goes,

My DD is 6mo, she is my first DC. SILs DD is 10 weeks younger than my DD and is SILs 4th DC.

SIL has always been a very competitive, critical and outspoken person. I am not, competitiveness (SP?) drives me crazy....
Generally we do get on but I cannot stand to be around her for too long because of the way she is.

The other day when SIL, BIL and DN (Other 3 kids live with their dad's) came round to our house for a coffee. She asked me about DDs red book. She asked what weight DD was. She laughed at how DN was heavier than my DD even though her DN is 10 weeks younger than DD. She then went on to compare length, head circumfrance etc.

She has also said that I am stupid for using terry nappies on DD as it will give her a complex that she has a big bum

She says DD is spoilt because I wont leave her to cry for hours on end, I will actually pick her up.

She thinks that I shouldn't have BF for as long as I did or am as I'm still going.

She said that I am putting DD in danger by BLW instead of pureeing everything.

I could go on and on. DH says she is just jelous (SP?) because of other factors that I don't think are relevant. He says to say something to her and it is because I let her get away with it that she keeps doing. I generally just laugh it off. But TBH her saying DD was spoilt because I pick her up when she cries has really gotten to me.

Oh and she also says my house is dirty and messy!! The messy I may give her, but not all the time and it is not dirty. My DH works so I have to run round like a woman possessed when DD is asleep or when DH is home to get the house clean. Her DP doesn't work so she has the daily support there to be able to get things done.

I need some good retorts, something to make her shut up. WWYD.

Hooray for you. Well done! I'm sure that she'll think twice before being a meanie to you again.

I bet she'll come back shame faced and apologetic. Let her stew for a bit before you welcome her with open arms though.

I wonder if there's a bit of jealousy there what with her being the only 'Mum' in the family before your DD came along. Maybe it's put her nose out of joint as you're actually doing a better job than her?

Fantastic, looks like you and DH got your point across!

BTW why do her other DCs live with their Daddy, sorry just horribly nosey

She said that her other dc asked to go and live with their dad's. She volunteerd that info I never asked her as it's nothing to do with me.

I think she is very insecure and she tries to make herself feel better by being nasty to DD and me.

I actually quite liked SIL and got on with her well before I had DD. But now I want nothing to do with her after what she said to DD.

isn't it.

It is sad but you don't want her negativity affecting your child. It's far better to look after the mental well-being of your own daughter rather than hang around with SIL at your sufference.

Exactly what I was wondering - if she was so fantastic, would they not be with her?!!

Well done you. And how fantastic dh was around when this happened.

Wow, had just been about to post saying I had a "friend" and a SIL the same but then read your update.

V. impressed with your retort!