I really need some help, my head is so messed up. I’m currently splitting with my partner of 12 years to be with my 17 year old son. Him and my son don’t have a great relationship and so for the past 2 years my son has been living with my parents. I have a 4 year old with my partner and this is what’s making it harder. We’ve had a really rubbish 4 years since our son arrived, my eldest at first didn’t bond with his brother and ignored him, he was generally a stroppy teenager who didnt want a baby brother, this didn’t go down well with my partner who thought he should be punished etc.. long story short partner dislikes my son and can’t get over it and son hates my partner for how upset he’s made me over the years.
I spent years on my own with my eldest as his dad wasn’t around and I so don’t want that for my youngest son. I want him to have his parents together. My partner says my ds 17 isn’t bothered about me or his brother and he’ll never come and live with us when we get our own place. He says he’s basically teaching us a lesson and doing this to make me realise that my eldest will stay put at my parents. Our house has sold and I have found somewhere to live with my boys but I’m devastated because I don’t want to split up with my other half, I’m worried about my youngest and how it’s going to effect him suddenly going to a new house where his dad isn’t there (he’s not good with change) it’s making me feel physically sick.