Scared to leave

[Helpmesomeway]

Hi,

I wrote a post the other day regarding my partner.

I’m basically moving into my own property with my son, we move tomorrow!

I’m so scared, worried and full of anxiety. I still want me and my partner of 23 years to be in a relationship, however I can’t live with him anymore as I don’t like the way he treats me. There’s no DV it’s other issues. I can’t cope with the change it’s too much for my anxiety. I’m currently paying for a private counselling sessions, but only just started them. Has anyone ever been on this situation? I feel emotional, feel like I’m letting my son down obviously he doesn’t want to leave. But when we’ve spoken he understands why ( kind off ) and he’s said he will obviously come with me. Please help me, I can’t stop crying.

You are going to be really fine.

It will be hard at first, you will be grieving.

There will be a void where your partner was because of the role they played in your life but you have not made this decision lightly.

You need to take care of yourself so you can care for your son.

You are setting a great example for your child by protecting your peace.

Sending lots of live.

Good for you.

It's not easy but I bet your anxiety will decrease. Enjoy your freedom.

I can tell you now, you WILL get through this. It can’t be hurried, it may take a while, but you will recover. It isn’t linear, there will be bad days but slowly the misery will lift and you will begin to feel better.

You must do everything you can to distract yourself from thinking about your lost relationship. Take up a new hobby, go swimming or walking, join a gym, reach out to friends, fill your diary with lots of weekend activities, get plenty of rest. Exercise releases endorphins, and it really goes help.

Build a strong foundation for your child, hold your head up, get out of bed every day and keep on, keeping on!

Let the anger and anxiety subside and maybe you will begin to see some light and maybe can have a calm sensible conversation with your partner. Just give the process time and then a bit more time.

It’s your time to shine.🌟

How do I know this? Just believe me, I do. 💐

This is the hard bit lovely, keep your eyes on the future and I promise you it will be better for you and your son when you are out the other side! Please don't even think about being in a relationship with someone who treats you badly - you deserve MUCH better and you don't want your son to see that example. Start thinking about what you want going forward - a peaceful and calm happy home and time to do what makes you feel good - new hobbies, seeing friends, having time and space to be you without judgement! Look after yourself lovely 💐