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Husband and step daughter

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inabitofatizz123 · 20/08/2025 21:24

Just need to rant. Usual summer hols where SD joins us for a few days. She is a young adult with a partner and has come out to us by herself this time. After the drinks start flowing I feel very left out as in she and my DH are pretty much a pair and I’m the bystander. SD turns into her mother (DH ex) can anyone relate it’s unbearable I wish to be by myself right now.

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BCBird · 20/08/2025 21:29

Think that you need to accept there's a shared history bwn them that doesn't include you. Her bring there is surely about SD and DH maintaining their relationship and not about you.

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inabitofatizz123 · 20/08/2025 21:30

Thanks for this …

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CopperWhite · 20/08/2025 21:38

They don’t see each other often and it’s nice that it sounds like they still have a strong relationship. If you feel left out you can put your big girl pants on and just be a supportive partner. It’s ok that their time together is not about you

PrincessandtheP · 20/08/2025 21:44

What do you mean by “SD turns into her mother”?

That is a very odd thing to say. Are you saying that SD now looks/behaves like her mum as a young adult, and you are concerned that your DH is enjoying the company of his ex-wife in the form of his SD?

Ohlifelife · 20/08/2025 21:53

SD turns into her mother (DH ex)

This is seriously weird.

It gives vibes, especially when you also say
she and my DH are pretty much a pair
that their relationship is somehow inappropriate.

Diarygirlqueen · 20/08/2025 22:04

You're being petty and emotionally immature.
It's her dad, let her spend time with him without you getting jealous. Ridiculous.

pilates · 20/08/2025 22:06

You should be pleased they have a good relationship. Jealousy is a horrible trait.

MsCactus · 20/08/2025 22:10

Don't be that stepmum. It's his daughter, it's good that he's close to her - kids should always come first

WishSheWouldGoAway · 20/08/2025 22:13

MsCactus · 20/08/2025 22:10

Don't be that stepmum. It's his daughter, it's good that he's close to her - kids should always come first

I actually think it's his step daughter.

Clarabell77 · 20/08/2025 22:23

WishSheWouldGoAway · 20/08/2025 22:13

I actually think it's his step daughter.

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Why would you think that?

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 20/08/2025 22:24

Being jealous of your stepdaughter isn't a good look.

DurinsBane · 20/08/2025 23:24

Ohlifelife · 20/08/2025 21:53

SD turns into her mother (DH ex)

This is seriously weird.

It gives vibes, especially when you also say
she and my DH are pretty much a pair
that their relationship is somehow inappropriate.

Edited

I would assume she doesn’t like the ex, and she means the SD starts behaving like her. Not anything weird or inappropriate!

User2025meow · 20/08/2025 23:26

She hasn’t had her dad 100% of the time because her parents split up. Don’t begrudge her this time with her dad, that’s not right,

PashaMinaMio · 20/08/2025 23:30

CopperWhite · 20/08/2025 21:38

They don’t see each other often and it’s nice that it sounds like they still have a strong relationship. If you feel left out you can put your big girl pants on and just be a supportive partner. It’s ok that their time together is not about you

Women need their fathers. They talk about stuff irrelevant to anyone else. They have shared history.
Give him/them space.

Rewis · 20/08/2025 23:52

She is there to see him. He is happy to see her. It is just a few days. You can do your own thing.

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