So my husband left a year ago after being a nightmare and years of terrible marriage and infidelity. He had a relationship with a woman and me during the separation which has resulted in him getting warnings at work and false police reports. He wants to come back and doesn’t understand why I won’t let him. Whilst I do love him I think I might have actually reached my limit of what I can take. I never thought I’d say that but now the idea of actually ending it is looming over me and I don’t if I can do it. Being apart was awful but he lied the whole time to me. Now I have to see this woman every day and she’s made it her life mission to destroy me she considers me the other woman who stopped them being together. Ridiculous as I knew nothing about it and I am the wife who was trying to repair her family but there you go. He says I’ve led him on because I was begging him to come back but I didn’t have all the information and I no longer treat him the same. He used to say I was smothering him now he misses it. How crazy it’s confusing and gaslighting is a common theme for him. I know I’m falling into the trap if I take him back but I am struggling to be the one that breaks the whole family again over it because it’ll be the final time for it.