Long time poster, name changed for this as I am completely lost.
Been dating someone for nearly 4 months. I haven't dated in years but we click, it's like I have met someone who I can be myself with, like completely.
I do worry a lot about many things, and I am worried I am being led on, I have a lot on personally ATM and I think this maybe a contributing factor but I feel like he won't commit, I am not talking weddings etc I am talking about us being "together" we're exclusive but if someone makes a comment about his girlfriend he has dismissed it saying he doesn't have one, I feel like it is all the benefits of it without having to actually have one and i worry I am being taken for a fool. I feel like I need some reassurance that he's in this and I am not just assuming we are something more than what it is....it feels like a situationship. I brought this up with him yesterday and he said that it's like I am waiting for him to leave, which tbh with how I am feeling it sort of feels that way. I am worried it's my head messing with me and I don't actually need this as tbh we are like a couple in every way it's just i feel if he wanted to say we're together he would?
Is it me, am I being irrational from being out of this world for so long and my expectations are too high or is it a reasonable time to expect to be a "something" frankly I'm nearly 40 and too old for these games I always just want to know where I stand and now feelings are becoming involved i am even more worried I will look like a fool.