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Mo212·Edited·Today 08:49
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Mo212·Original·Today 08:48
So me and my husband have been together for 10 years, he was going to go out to Australia before we met, but we met and that never happened for him. Fast forward we have 2 children and are happily married. The past year Australia has kept popping up (he also has family over there). We both agree the country (UK) isn’t in a great state at the moment and question whether it is the right place to raise our children. He would like to try Australia and initially I thought this too. We have started the process of house valuation and told family. My family were in shock and obviously not over the moon, we are very close. I have since had so many doubts as to whether I could move and leave my family, cried almost every day over it as I feel if I choose for us to stay I let my husband, our children and his family down, if we go I will miss my family terribly, let alone our dog who we would need to figure out where he goes. My husband says if we stay he will not resent me but I just don’t see how that doesn’t happen? We’re currently having a break from talking about as it is exhausting. If we go I am scared I will end up. resenting him if I don’t like it. He said he will always come back to the UK if I don’t like it but I don’t want him to be unhappy, however I don’t want to be unhappy either. I could love Australia I don’t know I’ve never lived there but it’s just so far from what I know and my wider family. I am also a people pleaser and never want to upset anybody, however it is inevitable someone will be.
At the moment I am thinking I don’t want to leave but Australia could be good, which just isn’t helpful.
If you do go, consider renting there for a while. Don't sell your home in the UK. Give yourselves time to adjust to a new life. It would definitely be an adventure and you can return to the UK if you're all not able to settle.
I believe you can take your dog if he's under the age of 10. It'd be awful leaving him behind. You're his family