I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year. I am 30, she is 30 next year. We live separately, about 45 minutes away from each other.
She has been renting a flat for the last few years, it is a housing association one so a bit cheaper than privately renting in her area, and she works a full-time job.
She has been having some issues with some new neighbours that have moved in, so was planning on giving her notice and moving out back to her parent’s house. However, it has now come to light that the new neighbours are probably going to move out again soon due to a relationship break-up and losing their jobs, they have also been threatened with eviction because of their behaviour and complaints against them.
I had a discussion with her, about whether this would influence her decision to move out or not, if they no longer lived there. She said that yes she would probably stay at her flat if that was the case. The topic then come up again a couple of weeks later, and she said that no, she had decided to still move out and back to her parent’s house in a couple of months time. The reason she gave was that she basically wanted more money to herself and to “treat herself” every month.
Now, this is where I feel a bit uneasy.
She doesn’t earn a massive amount (around £1700 on a basic month, £1900 on an enhanced month) but she has managed to afford the flat for 2 years on her own now (since her ex-partner moved out) and has savings to fall back on if needed. If she was moving back to her parent’s house to save money for something in particular - say to buy a property - then fair enough, but I just feel like that is basically a nearly 30 year old adult saying that they don’t want the responsibility of financing an ‘adult life’ and just wants to live with mum and dad to basically just buy themselves loads of new shit every month like a young adult would do? And then what is the plan after living there for a period of time, when basically she would be back in the same situation she is in now but probably paying more in a privately rented space?
How would everyone else feel about this? Is this a bit of a red flag?