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What do you think this means?

33 replies

Moonsun21 · 19/08/2025 00:41

While having a disagreement with dh, he tells me 'to get back in your box'.
Anyone's opinion on what he meant by this?

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ItsFreedomBabyYeah · 19/08/2025 00:50

It means he thinks his opinion is more important than yours.

GreenAndWhiteStripes · 19/08/2025 00:50

It means he expects you to shut up and do what he says. I would find this disrespectful.

Onthemaintrunkline · 19/08/2025 02:25

I’m pretty sure it means ‘shut-up’. Your contribution to the conversation is not wanted.

SereneCoralDog · 19/08/2025 02:30

You're overstepping and saying too much when you shouldn't so back off and shut the hell up.

AndyMcFlurry · 19/08/2025 02:33

It means “ know your place “ - which is beneath him.

The same as “ shut up and do as you are told”.

TheAutumnCrow · 19/08/2025 02:38

AndyMcFlurry · 19/08/2025 02:33

It means “ know your place “ - which is beneath him.

The same as “ shut up and do as you are told”.

Yep. ‘Get back where you belong’. That kind of meaning.

Icantthinkofausernameforthis · 19/08/2025 03:09

Without knowing what the disagreement was about it's hard to decipher the context in how this was said or whh by your husband and how it should be interpreted.

A quick internet search provides the following result:

It implies that the person is overstepping their boundaries or not being realistic, and should return to a more appropriate, less assertive position. In essence, it's a way to shut someone down and tell them to be quiet or less assertive.

stayathomegardener · 19/08/2025 03:42

It means he doesn’t respect you or your opinions and I suspect knows he’s not winning this particular argument so needs to shut you down.

MeTooOverHere · 19/08/2025 05:04

Moonsun21 · 19/08/2025 00:41

While having a disagreement with dh, he tells me 'to get back in your box'.
Anyone's opinion on what he meant by this?

"That's not your place, get back into your box (correct place)"

KingscoteStaff · 19/08/2025 05:09

Women! Know your place!

Sweetbeansandmochi · 19/08/2025 05:11

It means, he needs to use his words.

His vocabulary to express his wants/needs and opinions is lacking. He emotional regulation is heightened and so rather than saying or doing something to help himself he tries to bring the conversation to an end in a blunt, stifling and verbally aggressive way.

It means he is immature.

DogsandFlowers · 19/08/2025 05:21

It means you need to boot him out

RealEagle · 19/08/2025 08:03

Means shut up

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 19/08/2025 08:08

It means he’s knocked his head and reverted to a 1950s chauvinist male.

BMW6 · 19/08/2025 08:24

It means he's an utter wanker with a superiority complex and thinks you are subservient to him.

Moonsun21 · 19/08/2025 12:53

Yes, i thought along the same lines to all the above answers. The disagreement was about finances.

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baileys6904 · 19/08/2025 13:57

Im not sure it has any sexist connotations about it at all, and can be equally said to a man as much as it can a woman.

CanIgetARosePinkFrappucino · 20/08/2025 12:52

It means he thinks he has you where he wants you and won't tolerate you changing the status quo. Do you like this or time to get a new man

Haffdonga · 20/08/2025 13:06

It implies that you should 'know your place' and that that place is very much inferior to his

HelloHattie · 20/08/2025 13:20

It means shut up.

Dabberlocks · 20/08/2025 13:24

It means that he is not prepared to tolerate you having an opinion which differs from his, and he expects you to shut up and know your place.

Does he have form for this sort of behaviour?

Whatareyoutalkingaboutnow · 20/08/2025 13:25

It means he is an arsehole.🤷‍♀️

unsync · 20/08/2025 14:05

It means he's living in a completely different era and you have a decision to make. Is it the first time that he's demonstrated what an arse he is?

noidea69 · 20/08/2025 14:07

is it not the same as "wind your neck in"

ginasevern · 20/08/2025 14:49

noidea69 · 20/08/2025 14:07

is it not the same as "wind your neck in"

No, not really. "Wind your neck in" is usually said to someone who is getting verbally aggressive about something. It implies the conversation has become pretty heated.