I’ve been with my current partner (lesbian relationship) for just over 2 years. The first 6 months were absolutely amazing, couldn’t keep our hands off each other and having amazing sex at every opportunity that we could however we hit the 6 month mark and it all changed. My partner has become cold and distant, flinches when I put my arm over her in bed and has admitted that she avoids kissing me because she’s worried it will lead me on when she’s not up to it. We’re now having sex once every 6-8 weeks.
We’ve basically become friends that share a bed and occasionally hold hands whilst out and about. To the outside world we appear strong as a rock and have a picture perfect relationship but behind closed doors it couldn’t be further from the truth. I really do adore her and I know she loves me too so I’m hoping you can advise on how we tackle this and work through it. Or is it dead in the water and best to move on?
She was cheated on in her previous relationship and it absolutely broke her, I’m not sure if this is the main issue or if it’s something else deep down but anytime I communicate how lonely and disconnected I’m feeling, she says sorry, allows me to cuddle her for a night then it goes back to how it was.
Please help a girl out, we go on holiday in 5 weeks and I’ve told myself if nothing changes when we get back I’ve got to prioritise myself and walk away 😭
Shes the first person I’ve ever introduced to my 8 year old son and they have an amazing bond, I’m scared to break his heart as well as my own.