Separation

[TheGentleSeal]

I separated from my husband 7 weeks ago. We occasionally sleep together and still get on. He says he can’t trust me even though Ive never cheated and he was the one who spent all night out. Our daughter who is 16 wants us back together. We did argue quite a bit a few months prior to our split but I’ve since discovered I’m going through the menopause. I just don’t know whether to give up on him completely or try and fight in the hope he will come home. I’ve even considered joining online dating but I’m not sure if I’m the right head space for it. I do love him and he knows I would take him back at the drop of a hat. He still tells people he loves me to bits.

So who instigated the separation and why? If you both still love each other and there is no infidelity involved what was the reason for breaking up?

You say you would have him back but presumably he doesn’t want to get back together or you would be?

If he’s instigated the split and despite getting on well hasn’t changed his mind I think you need to accept it. Start trying to detach emotionally and physically (don’t sleep together!) or you are setting yourself up for heartbreak

We had a stupid argument over a tv show. He said he was leaving and took his wedding ring off. The next day he said he was going to stay at his parents house so I told our kids we were splitting up which I shouldn’t have done. This is the reason he’s staying at his parents because he has always said if he leaves and goes there he’s never coming back

If that’s all it took to end your relationship then it was a bit of a joke of a relationship anyway OP.

As an aside though- it’s been 7 weeks! Forget about dating for a long long time, and stop sleeping with your ex. You need therapy I truly think because you don’t know what you’re on about here, if you love your ex why would you even be thinking about online dating? If you’re thinking about dating why are you sleeping with your ex?

If a row over the TV ended your marriage and you were so quick to share that with your kids then it sounds like you both wanted out and now you’ve got it, stay that way.

He ended your marriage over a TV show.

You really need to make it a real separation and stop having sex with such a disrespectful turd of a spouse.

The accusing you of cheating then picking a fight to give him an excuse to leave sounds like he's the one who's cheating.