Is it normal to question if this is the right relationship/to feel unsure?

[Cardy44]

I honestly can’t figure out of this is a me thing or them. I have been with my boyfriend for around 2 years, but often I feel unsure about the relationship and wonder is it right for me. Nothing big has happened really but more deep down I wonder if my feelings are strong enough. When he says things about loving me so much etc I know I don’t feel exactly the same. I have love and affection for him.

but I’ve felt similarly to this with other boyfriends and I wonder is it a me thing rather than them? And how do I work that out?

If your gut is saying it's not right, it's not right.

It's ok to leave for that reason

But I wonder if I’m the issue in that maybe no one will ever feel ‘right’

Anyone?

I hear you. I’ve been with my partner for nearly 8 years. I love him. There are no red flags. But I periodically find myself questioning whether he’s a keeper.
I think it’s healthy actually. To every now and then step back and assess whether you’re in the right place and doing the right thing. For me, I’ve always felt, after taking a moment to think, yes, he still adds value, he’s still pressing all the right buttons.
If you find that after a bit of reflection, that he doesn’t add value, he’s not making you feel good, that your life would be better, even if only marginally, without him in it, then it’s time to call it quits.