New man troubles!

[GiddyHam]

Been out of dating game 10yrs+, late 50's, met nice man, a month in so very early days, a few dates, flowers, interest, big effort initially , no sex, a few smooches. Felt we were building something but weekend i arranged an away day , felt a bit off, not touchy at all, he left early due to a commitment (that could have been rearranged). I felt low priority, chat was superficial, low effort, now not heard from him where I usually would have. I'm not sure why this is taking up soooo much of my mind traffic... I'm an overthinker at the best of times. I'm really not sure if I like 'him' or the 'feeling ' .I'm confused and thinking of bailing as this now feels shite!

Either he's started seeing someone else or is looking, maybe he hoped it would be sexual by now?

Sorry you feel bad. I'm not sure what to suggest, maybe there is nothing for you to do except decide if you are happy to put up with the hot then cold?

Possible....

sounds like he is just not that into you.

I have this as well with OLD, I had a lovely message last week, lovely chats for two days, actually seemed like a really nice bloke, and then Friday night and Saturday he went all quiet and I had one text although he’d read them. So I blocked him, I can’t be bothered with people mucking about. I think OLD is a sweetie shop for men and they come over all unnecessarily giddy when they see all these women available, and it comes over very obvious when they’ve found other women message them. The pick me dance is not for me, I’m afraid, they can just fuck off 🫡

I’m a similar age and gave up on OLD as so many of the 50+ men are flaky and don’t really want a relationship.

It does sound like he’s still looking out for another offer and not really feeling it. It may be the no sex yet that’s the issue for him because in my experience that’s all most of them were chasing.

In the very early days don't forget it's offen their representative you are meeting, not the real them. Flowers, chocolates etc are all unnecessary in my opinion, it's connection and sincerity that count. Many can't keep up the nice guy image for long! He was probably still on dating sites and keeping his options open. At least he showed his true colours early OP so you haven't wasted too much time on him. Block and move on!

Yeah I would definitely bin this one. OLD is a sweetie shop for both sexes imo. But a lot of it isn't real. So you've got to treat it really lightly. If you find a decent one, they're rare, but they are out there. It's the same with decent men in real life tbh. They're hard to find so try to just enjoy the meeting new people side of it and don't let it take up too much of your head space.

He’s probably lost interest a month in if you haven’t had sex. Most men would, especially as PP’s say that this age range is flaky and very focussed on sex.
If you didn’t want to then you’ve done the right thing. Block and move on, don’t start to accept breadcrumbs and keep seeing him as he’ll be looking for someone else.
If he’s not making you feel good after such a short time, he’s not the one for you.