How often to text after first date

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Just wondered what other people's perspectives are? I get quite anxious after a first date if I like them and am always overthinking everything. I also hate initiating texts as in my mind I feel if the man was interested thrn he would, which i know is probably unreasonable. Would you expect everyday after a first date, every other day, once a week?
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I would expect a text after the date and then every day after if he liked me and wanted to see me again. If not I'd expect him to tell me thanks but no thanks.

Would you ever initiate or just let him chase you?

Of course you have to initiate sometimes too. If the situation were reversed, and it was always you having to initiate with a guy who never messaged first, you’d assume he wasn’t interested and you’d stop bothering. It has to go both ways.

Personally I have never initiated, I let him show me if he is interested first.

A text saying, “thanks for a fun evening” would be my usual. If he doesn’t respond you know where you stand.

Yeah I'm talking more about after you've already said you enjoyed your evening and agreed to see eachother again, how often should the texting be? We met Friday night and he texted quite a lot Saturday but then nothing today

I wouldn't expect any texts really other than to arrange the next date but that's probably because I was used to the pre mobile days of sending smoke signals (almost).

It would depend on the last message that were sent.

I don’t see a problem with sending a polite ‘morning joe are you’ type text but noticing more than that unless he replies

He might be busy

Leave it a day or so then text something interesting or a nice question about him to let him know you're thinking about him

It works both ways he might think he's been too full on

^ This… he might have had plans today / a lot on.

After that, if you’ve not yet arranged the second date, maybe suggest somewhere you could go and see how he reacts.

Sometimes we like the female to take charge and initiate things. We also worry we’re being too keen or distant.

I’d send a text (or get a text which I would respond to) something about enjoying the date and hope to meet again soon. Then I’d expect them to follow up with a suggested time and place. Then the day before a confirmation from both sides. But nothing more than that.
You just went on one date - you shouldn’t spend much time texting just arrange to meet again! If he had t suggested anything by say Tuesday why don’t you suggest a place yourself and wait for a reply. If he doesn’t, then that’s it. Don’t get too invested this early on.

Text if you have something interesting to say or ask. Then wait for a reply unless there's something really interesting or important you need to let him know.

As often as feels right for you! No mind games or following made up 'rules'. If it doesn't work out it doesn't work out and someone who is more in tune with your communication style will come along..

Have you two actually arranged a second date? Who texted the most recent message?

If no date arranged and he has not responded to your most recent message, I would not hold out much hope.

Personally I would not message again.

When me and DP were first dating, there'd be a brief text exchange after the date, saying we were home safe, enjoyed the date etc. Then a few days later to organise the next date, then on the day of the date just to confirm it was still on. Nothing conversational, we'd save that for the actual date

This was 20 odd years ago though, so things may have changed. And neither of us are particularly big texters, even now if we're away without each other, then we'll just phone every day or two, won't be much texting in between.