Partner wants to move

[Martsem]

My partner lived with his mother as he was her full time carer and was not going to put her in a care home. She has passed now.

He wants to leave the area for a fresh start as some people’s actions hurt his family and it still upsets him knowing they are in the area getting on with life after the misery they caused.

He has daughters 18 & 19 who live with their mother 40 minutes away. He wants to move to a town 15 minutes away from his daughters. Me and him live 35 minutes apart so wherever he moves it won’t make a difference to me.

He has no idea what this town is like so needs to do his research before moving. What concerns me is he don’t see his daughters much. A few times they have cancelled on him for a better offer mainly for their boyfriends. It’s understandable they want to see their boyfriends but they see them every day and their dad once or twice a month. I don’t see why the boyfriends can’t wait a day.

I am concerned he could move and the daughters won’t want to see him and he has left all his family and friends behind who are a support network. He still sees his relatives regularly who are local.

I’m sorry but are you asking for advice here? Or otherwise what’s the point of your thread?

I am asking what is the best course of action. He leaves everyone behind and then still don’t see his daughters so ends up isolating himself.

But he's only moving 40 minutes away, not to the moon. He can still see people from his current area, whether he sees his daughters more or not. He clearly wants a new start, and moving 40 minutes away isn't exactly life-altering.

They sound like normal teenagers . This is what happens to most at this point. But as they get older and lot then start spending more time with parents . So him being closer will be good for the longterm relationship.
Also be probably would be closer to them now if he lived closer and saw them more when they were younger.
Obviously not always that simple. But he has to accept effort works both ways.

Ok, well I agree it’s not far to move and he has his reasons for moving. It doesn’t really affect you, so support him in what he wants to do.