I have been married for 4 years now, together 6 years. We have a 3 year old daughter together. My husband is 16 years older than me and age has never been a problem. For the 6 years that we are together it was always me who initiated intimacy. Sometimes I was rejected. Whenever I discussed the issue with him, he reassured me that he’ll change but that has never happened. We’ve only being out on dates not more than 4 times (mind you we’re together 6 years) because he felt uncomfortable and didn’t want to spend any money. When it comes to spend money on me he’s bit tight. I really didn’t mind that. But he once made negative comments about my body but he apologised and said he was ignorant. I forgave him and we move on. During my pregnancy, I could tell that he was so uncomfortable accompanying me to the routine appointments. But he was there. I had traumatic birth, I was in labour for 3 days before they decided to do C-section. During those days, he was barely there for me even though he was in the hospital. Every 5 minutes, he’ll disappear. He felt so uncomfortable and the midwives could tell that. He’s a great dad. He helps out with childcare and the household chores but he’ll never contribute towards weekly grocery shopping. He earns more than me. He’s always left with more than £1300. I never really mind that . The main problem is he makes me feel unwanted, undesirable, only wants to have sex once a year and doesn’t take no for an answer. He likes to control me, like I can’t wash the dishes without him telling how to do it. I can’t drive without him criticising me. I feel so suffocated but I can’t leave because the last time I asked for divorce he got nasty. Calling me names. Call me bad mother because I want to break a happy family, he called me selfish and worse. I love my daughter so much she’s my whole world. I don’t want to be the reason why our family breaks. So I had another discussion with him and he suggested seeing a therapist like relationship counselling. I agreed but that was nearly 4 months ago , whenever I ask him about it, he says he doesn’t have enough money. He always expect me to pay for things , even the few times we’ve been out on date it was me who paid for everything. I’m not a saint either, I’m constantly angry and moody cuz I feel so lonely. I don’t have any family here except my daughter. I do shout t him , only because he won’t stop talking to me when I don’t want to . He pretends everything is fine. Tells his family that we’re doing great. He’s happy with the way things are but I’m not. Also we sleep in separate rooms. I don’t know what to do. I’ll appreciate any advice!