Tinder paranoia

[AnotherGreyMorning]

I go on about once a fortnight. I accumulate quite a few likes. I get them down to the few I think have potential. Usually about 20. I reciprocate their likes. Every single time without fail, they all unmatch me.

This is the 4th time it’s happened. I put it down to a glitch or something at first but now I am wondering what am I doing wrong?

Nothing. Men swipe yes on everyone

Men swipe on anyone they remotely attractive. Women swipe only on ones they really fancy and dont have sickish profiles.
Once you match, men will examine a profile more closely and then decide.

Also, alot on apps are already in relationships. They use apps for validation that they still got it.

I’m curious why you only respond to them, why don’t you go on it and swipe left or right on them? Your way seems a bit passive but it doesn’t have to be. You might feel better if you have some sense of control over it?

Oh. Men swipe on everyone? Really? God I’m naive. And then that doesn’t make me feel better when upon closer examination, they all unmatch me!

I do both.

And the ones I swipe right never ever reciprocate with a like.

It may also be that you're only going on once a fortnight. Things move quickly on these dating apps and people lose interest.

Your tactics are wrong. You need to be aware that not every profile on there is live, some people will have created a profile and found someone. It's a real volume game. You need to churn through profiles and then when you match be proactive- if you are only going on once a fortnight then people are losing interest.

Think if you matched with someone and it took them 2 weeks to get back to you, you'd assume they had had something better on and that they weren't that interested.

It's much more productive to work the apps really intensively for a few weeks rather than little bits here and there

Indeed, it’s a really horrible way of doing it I think. That’s men, looking out for number 1. Honestly the best option is to be happy single, it’s fabulous!