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My girlfriend wants me to take a lie detector.. should I do it?

78 replies

ThisBrickGuide · 14/08/2025 13:57

We’ve been together almost 2 years, but it’s been on and off lately. She’s always had trust issues that aren’t really about me, but after our last breakup she asked if I’d been speaking to anyone else. I told her honestly that I’d signed up to a dating site for a few days and chatted to some people, nothing more. She ended things, said it was over for good.
A few weeks later, she got back in touch. Now her anxiety is through the roof, she’s constantly looking for reassurance, and she says the only way to “move forward” is if I take a lie detector to prove I told the truth. I’ve told her I think it’s unhealthy and I don’t want to do it, but she keeps pushing.
I do care about her, but this is stressing me out and I’m starting to wonder if this relationship is even worth it. Should I take the test just to shut her up, or is this a big red flag?

OP posts:
Walker1178 · 15/08/2025 18:37

So what happens if you take it and pass?

  1. Happy days, she’ll trust you forever
  2. She’ll make you take another every time she feels insecure

I’d give the test and your DP and great big miss. Get out now and don’t look back!

OldBeyondMyYears · 15/08/2025 18:41

Is she fucking 12? Jesus!

ohyesido · 15/08/2025 18:48

Haha even if you passed she would still think you found a way to swerve it

queenMab99 · 15/08/2025 18:49

From her point of view, if she can't trust you, then all the lie detectors in the world won't help. So why bother ? She just wants the satisfaction of proving you are a liar. There is no relationship to save!

Heyhoitsme · 15/08/2025 18:51

Run for the hills. She'll never trust you. It's in her dna.

Rachand23 · 15/08/2025 19:27

OP where do u find a lie detector? Can you buy one or rent one?

FrippEnos · 15/08/2025 19:31

Rachand23 · 15/08/2025 19:27

OP where do u find a lie detector? Can you buy one or rent one?

A quick google says that you can book tests at centres across the country.

Rachand23 · 15/08/2025 20:15

Thanks FrippEnos! ,

Laura95167 · 15/08/2025 21:04

They arent even reliable. You'll never satisfy her insecurities 🚩

llizzie · 16/08/2025 01:38

ThisBrickGuide · 14/08/2025 13:57

We’ve been together almost 2 years, but it’s been on and off lately. She’s always had trust issues that aren’t really about me, but after our last breakup she asked if I’d been speaking to anyone else. I told her honestly that I’d signed up to a dating site for a few days and chatted to some people, nothing more. She ended things, said it was over for good.
A few weeks later, she got back in touch. Now her anxiety is through the roof, she’s constantly looking for reassurance, and she says the only way to “move forward” is if I take a lie detector to prove I told the truth. I’ve told her I think it’s unhealthy and I don’t want to do it, but she keeps pushing.
I do care about her, but this is stressing me out and I’m starting to wonder if this relationship is even worth it. Should I take the test just to shut her up, or is this a big red flag?

Are you serious?

Thepossibility · 16/08/2025 02:32

No it would only give you temporary relief for her needing constant reassurance. And giving it to her would indicate that her request is reasonable.
If she doesn't trust you then you shouldn't be together

Lovehascomeandgone · 16/08/2025 05:09

If this is the point it has gotten to then the relationship is done. Walk away.

PlayfulWrangler · 16/08/2025 05:21

Move on. Nothing can be gained from getting back together with this girl. The trust issue will not go away & is a RED FLAG for you.

DO NOT TAKE THIS GIRL'S NEUROSES ON. YOU cannot save her and it will drive you insane trying.

PlayfulWrangler · 16/08/2025 05:21

Move on. Nothing can be gained from getting back together with this girl. The trust issue will not go away & is a RED FLAG for you.

DO NOT TAKE THIS GIRL'S NEUROSES ON. YOU cannot save her and it will drive you insane trying.

MayaPinion · 16/08/2025 05:37

RUN! This is not a healthy, happy relationship. The lie detector test is unreasonable and will be the tip of the iceberg. Next she won’t like you seeing friends or family, trackers in the car, and going through your phone. You’ll have to spend the rest of your life managing her anxiety. This is her problem, not yours, and you can’t fix it. She really needs therapy before she engages in another relationship.

IamNotBeingUnreasonable · 16/08/2025 05:45

Absolutely not, don't do this. She is batshit. Imagine what else you'll be required to do going forward if you buy into this nonsense.

Vitriolinsanity · 16/08/2025 06:08

Where do you even get a lie detector test done?

LLM21 · 16/08/2025 07:03

I would take it and prove to her you are not a liar and then leave and don't go back to her again! It will no doubt get to a point that you aren't allowed to go anywhere without her just to please her insecurities.

Horses7 · 16/08/2025 08:28

🚩🚩🚩🚩

MoFadaCromulent · 16/08/2025 09:07

Run a fucking mile

Owl55 · 16/08/2025 13:40

You are looking on dating sites ! No wonder she doesn’t trust you, this relationship has come to the end either way .

Bikergran · 16/08/2025 16:51

Psycho. Dump her, block her on every platform, move if necessary, move on. She'll never change and she'll make your life a misery.

dh280125 · 17/08/2025 18:24

Lie detectors are shockingly unreliable, so there's really no point. But more pertinently, she will never trust you.

ilovemydogandmrobama2 · 17/08/2025 18:31

Side stepping the lie detector test, the next thing she will want are your passcodes and passwords on all apps, phones and lap tops to satisfy herself that you are telling the truth.

If you change your passwords, she will accuse you of having something to hide, and this will go in circles.

You were split from her at the time - you don't owe her or anyone any explanations.

PruthePrune · 17/08/2025 18:43

A few thoughts,

Where would you get a lie detector test done?
Who would pay for it? You or Paranoid Pam?
They are not acurrate
Nothing you ever do is going to satisfy he insecurities, they will only increase.
End this relationship, it's not worth the trouble.

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