Hi. I just wanted to seek some advice because im really struggling with ym situation. Im in my mid 30s and got married last year after 2.5 yesrs of dating. Ive got a demanding job which dictates where I live in the country for a period of training and I explained this to my husband from our second date. He always promised me he would support my career and wanted me to succeed. He lives in london and is a city worker with flexible working arrangements. A month after the wedding I got allocated to be in my hometown and we bought a house there to facilitate my training while husband was going to either commute or live with family on the days he needed to be in the office (3 days a week). A few things went on in the run up to buying the house without him requiring me to out my half of the deposit down first snd then after this he tried to withdraw the purchase and his mother got involved and they both wanted my absolute assurance that we would move back to london as soon as my training contract was up which I agreed to but I found the demands quite difficult at that stage. Husband then put the money down eventually and moved into our home with a few belongings but not everything. He tried living here for about 3 months but then decided that he didn't like the house and doesn't like the atea and wanted a divorce. He became quite emotionally abusive. Over the next 5 months he then became very verbally and emotionally abusive resulting in me taking significant time off work for stress. Owever he has been brought up in a dysfunctional family and the whole fsmily often dwear and shout at esch other so i didnt think much of it at the time. Over the last few weeks he has said he didnt want a divorce and nkw thinks we should remain separate but wants to be friends. He has come up with an idea where we go back to dating and seeing each other at the weekends and then in 3 years time I move to london to be with him. Im really struggling to decide what to do and manage my emotions. Im all over the place. I cry all the time, my mood feels very very low. I am struggling to accept the loss and feel awful when im not in contact with him. However when we do have contact I feel a bit better. How do I move forward with this as im totally lost? And what i find now is that on the days I have no contact with him i feel absolutely awful and horrific and cant cope with the feelings of heartbreak whereas on the fays weve had a bit of contact it feels soothing to an extent but not fully the same as what it was when we were a couple.