I think this is probably my fault since I brought it up first, but getting an outside opinion would be helpful.
At first, I had some concerns about my new boyfriend and whether our relationship would work because we’re so different. We have different personalities, views and interests. Plus, I don’t fit the type of woman he usually goes for (blonde, feminine, wears dresses and skirts). I’m a brunette, curvy, and typically wear gym clothes or jeans and tshirts. He’s always been really positive about our differences, saying he wouldn’t want to be with someone just like him because that would be boring, and he believes opposites attract.
I’ve struggled with insecurities about my appearance and self worth, and I initially thought he had settled for me and could find someone better. We’ve worked through these feelings, and I feel much happier and more content in the relationship, except for one thing. When we first started dating and I was unsure about our differences, I made a joke about my close friend being perfect for him because they share the same personality. It was a joke (she’s engaged too) and a pretty stupid one at that. I said it because I was feeling insecure and defensive.
Since then, he’s brought her up a few times and asked when we can go on a double date. I’m not sure if he’s interested in meeting her because of my comment and to see if he likes her or if he just wants to meet her since she’s my friend and part of my life. I talked to her on the phone this evening, and he asked, “Oh, was that the friend who’s like me?” “How is she?” My friend is also very beautiful, dresses in a way he likes, and I wouldn’t be surprised if he found her attractive. She’s also asked a few times when she can finally meet him.
Am I just being paranoid? I keep putting it off and making excuses.