I came clean 10 monts aho about cheating but I didn't tell the whole truth.

[BeHonestHiker]

I (22f) cheated on my boyfriend (28m) 4 years ago in the third week of the relationship. I came clean 10 months ago and he forgave me. It was drunk kissing on the party with one guy and one girl but I just told him that I kissed a guy one time and that I felt bad about it. I don't know why I did this, why I didn't say everything to him about it. He forgave me and our relationship is really great rn, my therapist told me that it isn't about confession anymore and that I should get past it already but I feel so bad about it. He said to me than that he didn't want to talk about it anymore and that he wants to try to get past that and here we are 10 months ago. He asked me for the details days after that and I was scared and didn't tell him about everything... I am worst person now then before I told him.

Yep you need to let go of this. A drunken snog at 18?

It was a drunken kiss 4 years ago! Stop obsessing about it and let it go - your relationship is good now so focus on that.

I have a slightly different view as my DD (19) went through this recently
Her BF confessed to one brief drunken snog in a night club and they talked about it and moved on with quite an impressive level of maturity (I wanted to send him hate mail and burn his room down)
BUT then it came out that the drunken snog was actually 2 drunken snogs with 2 different people and DD decided that the trust was gone and they were over (she still didn't let me go nuclear though).
SO, I think if he finds out you are toast

@Hoppinggreen Nuclear? calm down.

Seriously? It was a drunken snog four years ago. Not ideal but we’re talking three weeks into seeing each other, wouldn’t really even be considered a relationship at that point IMO.

OP you were eighteen. You’ve presumably learned from it, but it happened, you now need to move on from it.

It’s hardly cheating in the general sense of the word. Most eighteen year olds will have had a drunken snog at some point while seeing someone else.

If you were in a full-on committed relationship that would be one thing, but you were barely even seeing each other at that point. I probably wouldn’t have even told him.

Just forget about it and move on, it was years ago and you'd only just starting seeing your b/f

3 weeks into a relationship? Only an 18 year old would think they were in an exclusive relationship after 3 weeks. Let it go. Also, he was 24 and you were 18? Gross.

I think the way to let it go is to tell him, explaining that it's the withholding that bothers you after all this time, not the second kiss, which is no big deal.

You need to work with your therapist on why you find it so hard to forgive yourself.

No one is perfect, and that's ok.

Let it go and enjoy life.

You have posted about this a million times. Why didn't you take any of the advice you were previously given?

Joking. Calm down

You're putting way too much importance on the fact you kissed one person. So what. It's done.

Your bf doesn't need/want to know.

Your therapist told you to try and forget it. Maybe listen to them and stop torturing yourself.

You need to focus on the future, not the past.

You want to take your discomfort and give it to him. That’s not fair - move on.

This is something like your fifth thread about this.
I have nothing to add to the large amount of advice you have already been given (& seem to prefer to ignore).

Was it 3 weeks after you'd met or 3 weeks after you became official?