Finally broke up.

[IfyouStealMySunshine]

3 years with my boyfriend - both in our 40’s with dc from respective marriages. Lived separately.

Been for the most part drama free and had nice memories to take away but it wasn’t going anywhere and he was making less and less effort.
More to it but ultimately it doesn’t matter I knew we weren’t right for each other and I was unhappy for some time.

Frustratingly am feeling sad as he’s been a huge part of my life and I will miss him but I know it’s not right. Took a huge step and deleted his contact number today. Mainly to stop me being tempted to text him in the future in case I feel down (not fair on him) or even just to stop myself looking at his profile pic on WhatsApp. Self torture for no reason.

Anyone done similar and ended things with someone they love but they know wasn’t right for them?

You are very brave.
You knew you were wasting your time.
Change is hard, but wasting time is harder.
Grieving is fine.
You will be fine.

Yes I was in a very similar situation to you.
It was hard to make the decision as he was a lovely person but I knew he wasn’t right for me.
I stayed single for a few months then threw myself back into dating and met the guy I’m with now.
Still difficult as we are living separately and having to find time to see each other around other commitments but I don’t regret the decision for one second as he is a much better fit for me.

Well done for making the tricky decision. My Gran said to me that it’s better to be single than with the wrong person and she is 100% correct.

Thanks for replies I needed to hear them last night. Onwards and upwards I suppose.

Definitely onward and upwards.
I hope the DC are ok with the split too.
Big hugs.

I’m in exactly the same situation as you. I don’t have children, but he has 4 - we also live apart. I made the difficult decision to leave him on Friday, he’s aggressive and toxic as hell with issues around alcohol. I’m finding it hard but I know it’s the right thing to do. Hand hold for you, you’re not alone!