How best to support my friend.

[LilRedWG]

A lovely friend of mine has just told me that she is splitting with her H.

I really want to support her emotionally, but have no experience with break-ups, what's the best thing I can do? She lives an hour's drive away so it's not as though I can just pop round on an ad-hoc basis Plus, I'm off on holiday on Monday for a fortnight.

have supported a friend through a marital breakdown. i also was going on holiday shortly after it happened. we got skype phones so we could talk, and i texted her every day. and alos bought her a very nice present. all you can do at the moment is listen.

just be there,listen,and just be available

but be wary of totally assasinating her H's character if there is a chance that they could reconcile

agree with lulu just try to be there to give her a supporting shoulder to cry on even if it is only over the phone.

maybe invite her to stay at your for the weekend once you get back, or you go to her?

all you can do is try and make sure that she knows you are there for her. you sound like a very good friend to her and im sure you will find a way to help her get through this

Thanks guys.

I definitely won't be assasinating anyones character - I'd already had that thought Lulu.

I just wish there was something I could do, wave a magic wand or something

it is almost like a bereavement, there will be stages of grief, anger, disbelief, and hopefully acceptance...it is awful, even if a realtionship has been faltering or unhappy, for it to actually end is so sad.