My name says it

[Toldtofuckoff]

Changed my name for this

im done, I was trying to help, adult daughter had a problem he was trying to help but they were struggling, I said “have you tried “ but before I could finish he told me to fuck off, apparently I don’t know what I’m talking about. I didn’t know any more than they did but I had an idea.

its not the first time he said it to me,

my daughter just told him to apologise but he says I’m the one with a problem.

im done, I’m out

I don't blame you, he sounds truly vile.

Why is your daughger involved in this? She shouldn’t be included in your relationship drama.

Do better.

Did you actually read the OP? Because you sound like a twat. Do better.

So many posts recently being totally and deliberately provocative in response to women posting in relationships. Hmm.

I would really like the poster to explain to the OP how she should be ensuring that her adult daughter and her husband didn't speak to each other in this scenario 😂

She’s an adult, fully grown with children, she was there when he said it, could hardly not hear what he said, and her reaction was to say “that was harsh dad “. He just laughed and said “well what would she know about it” when told he should apologise to dropping the f word he said no, I walked out the room when he refused to apologise.

I started to pack, but why the hell should I, this house is half mine, I’ve spent 38 years with him, half of it’s mine,

I don’t really know where to go from here, but I know I can’t carry on like this.

Not sure how old you are OP but you must be at least mid-50’s. Same as me.
He is so used to you, has no respect for you, you are like a piece of furniture to him. You are just there.
To speak to you like that in front of you adult daughter is demeaning.
Don’t walk out, but seriously it’s time to start considering your future.
Lots of women on MN have been where you are and are now on the other side, happy and free.
You need to work out where to go from here. Whether you are married, or partners who live together, what you own, where your life is in terms of career/savings. His too.
He will just get worse was he gets older. He’s already spiteful, speaking to you like a piece of dirt.
I would say nothing to him right now. I would speak to a trusted friend, and then get some legal advice.
Our lives are precious, and as women we are so tired of being treated poorly once our 50’s are here we just think…. no more!

Divorce the fucker. Take your time, plan carefully and then drop it in his lap like a bag of hot sick.

I agree with the previous poster. Move at your own pace that do make sure you do get rid of this absolute dead weight. You will have a lovely life without him.