Left the alcoholic

[Littlelou52]

I dated him 9 yrs ago and left without a trace he managed to get me on snapchat one night again and promised he stopped drinking and life was good this was Sept last yr 2024 nov Dec he was still drinking me thinking I could fix this as im a non drinker Christmas day not a present he did get me a cheap ring as I asked but on xmas day I was leaving to feed my sis and daughter they had nothing she was just housed from being homeless I left a bag of gifts for him.

On xmas day he said oh your ring at the door I said u said I don't deserve it you don't he replied I get through new year split up and I now find out he was entertaining someone else on the 5th jan he contact me the sorry situation so I gave him another chance said this is it he was still drinking but working during the day so I could cope we now get to he's off on holiday 2 weeks ago and we do a caravan holiday 3 days great well he went through 2 bottles of vodka and fell asleep coma posed at night said he had a great holiday in which I had time to go through his phone as he said I could anytime what I saw has traumatised me he was cheating and having playtime with women online and saved the indecent images and he asked me to get a contract phone in April the day after I get him the phone I see he had been maturating with a women so I've now left and blocked the phone and sim and healing form these images in my head he works in nhs as a paramedic too and can hide his drinking just need to get stronger on my own . He 3 yrs iva to do and life will be miserable without money I was helping with shopping he was cooking as im disabled and going through hospital appointments he stayed off the drink 4 days last week we went out for the day drove back he went into shops for diluting juice put it in the boot says in the car I've just bought a half bottle I said drive home and I'm leaving going back to my own house he said I didn't buy it well u can't trust a drunk could be in his pockets I've deleted whatts app everything making it hard for him to find me and also blocked the sim and phone he didn't appreciate what I done for him I'm off to heal my thoughts.

Almost impossible to read , but I got the gist.
Don’t go back again. He’s an alcoholic, they lie.

I couldn’t understand this and I’m generally pretty good at working posts out.

I agree with PP he is an alcoholic and you have a child. Your child doesn’t deserve to be put through this so you need to leave him.

You need to be strong and cut him out f your life now full stop. No more chances. You know he will never change. If hes a paramedic, hes teetering on he very edge of losing his job/driving licence/home etc. not your problem.you need to white knuckle this now and if hes a does turn up, especially with a sob story of how its all gone wrong, DO NOT let him in/stay/give him another chance.

I don't have children with him sorry it's hard for people to understand could be how I've written it thank u though for your posts

But you mention a daughter. How old is she?

How did he manage to get you on Snapchat again one night?

Am I right in thinking it's over now?

I think all of your questions about him can be answered with, "Becaue he's an alcoholic."

Don't let him 'manage' to get back into your life again.

I think it is the sister's daughter?

I'm afraid your post didn't read well. Do you drink OP?

He sounds unwell with a battle with alcohol. Shame: he's obviously got a lot to give with being a paramedic. He needs to help himself.

But.... That part isn't your problem. People with alcohol addictions cannot ever make good partners whilst in active addiction.

The other stuff is all just related to his alcoholism. Goes with the territory.

Walk away. No good will come of this whilst he's unwell.

if he’s drinking that much let alone anything else he needs breath testing if he’s driving an ambulance do us all a favour report his drinking
meanwhile do yourself a favour and stay away from him wake up and smell the coffee your relationship is toxic.

OP, why on earth do you keep letting him back into your life? Just stay away and have nothing to do with him. He’ll keep telling you he’s reformed and he won’t have made any changes. He’s bad news, so just let go. Block and delete, then move on.

I have a son 33 and daughter 29 from a marriage I've been out of for 21 yrs he was an alcoholic I got out of that a long time ago and this guy said he was different

I have no addictions never have taken alcohol smoked or taken drugs I've had a brain injury 2010 and could be my misspelling for people to understand I'm an empath always put other people first I've now been diagnosed with primary hypothyroidism in the past week and dealing with that so I've realised I'm too ill to deal with his addiction he asked me to help get him off the drink I can't my brain is too week as is my bones .

I did a report to the police for claires law nothing came back i made my concerns about his drinking but nothing has come of it my freinds and sister have gave up talking to me my daughter said I stuck it out long enough time for to let it go

I was on tik tok and someone asked me to download snapchat to talk further which I did for less than an hour I seen he asked to talk to me I was reluctant but wanted to hear what he had to say he said he is a better person doesn't drink anymore and his life had changed he said he had a stroke and cancer but was now back at work and doing well .

Yes I've broken it off with him and had the phone blocked and sim that I pay for tommorro he will work his way to getting that sorted with a new number I've had to put my phone on supplementry services don't take calls shut down any apps like whatts app delete everything .

My sisters daughter is 19 they just moved into a new home from being homeless and didn't have food for xmas day so I bought breakfast ect from too good to go app .

He won’t change. Stay well away from this guy.

OP had already said she didn’t drink and was disabled in earlier posts.

I am disabled i ahd 2 ankle accidents which left me in a wheelchair since jan 2022 I ain't seen him since 2016 until he contacted me on snapchat I guess I was vulnerable and lonely not being able to walk and isolated I was having meals on wheels delivered till may this yr .

There are community groups for families of alcoholics op, sounds like this type of thing might help you stay away and give you support and company. He won’t change and it’s not your job to help him. He needs to do it alone, he won’t

Oh ok, my bad, I didn't realise being disabled and in a wheelchair made you incoherent 🙄

@Littlelou52 you know what to do.
Cut him off completely, and never allow him back into your life.
Alcoholics lie. Your so much better without him.