Thoughts please

[Roxy75]

Met someone on Match. Turns out we went to the same high school and grew up on the same street. He doesn’t remember me but I remember him. Had 4 dates and he was so attentive, messaging all the time. How he was punching above his weight with me, how proud he was to have me on his arm. He’s been separated 2 years. He’s not felt like this for a long time, wants to see me more than the time I have available.
it seems this has freaked him out a bit. We’ve decided to slow things down and I’m meant to be seeing him Sunday.
He has said it’s not that’s he is not into me cos he is. Just everything is happening so fast. I’ve said just take things at your pace, no worries here.
Is this bullshit? Can this work? Can slowing things down redeem things???

It doesn’t make sense tbh he was the one who was pushing to see you more but you were busy. Now he’s freaking out? Sounds like he’s got cold feet and might start saying he’s not ready for a relationship

Sounds like he’s been love bombing you and now going to start playing games. It’s only been four dates, he’s tried to push to see you more, made out he’s on top of the world and then backed off. That sounds dodgy as fuck especially as he can’t remember you from school and living near each other years ago.

I've been there too many times, you first meet and they are so into you, wanting to see more of you then as soon as they have you they lose interest. It's a 2 way street and I wouldn't have him calling all the shots. Maybe I am just cynical but in my experience if it's very full on right from the start it will end just as quickly as it began

He’s spinning you the script - he’s not interested in pursuing a relationship but he’ll string you along while he’s looking out for a better offer.

If you’re ok with casual that’s fine otherwise I’d end it in your shoes

Sadly this is common. Men love bomb, enjoy the thrill of the chase then once they’ve got you they either go hit and cold or just cool down, distance then ghost. And move onto the next target.
I suspect he’s not been single for two years and his break up is much more recent so he’s not ready for anything serious. Or he just doesn’t want anything serious. But wants the ego boost that this is creating.
I’d throw this one back.

It may have all been new and exciting for him at the time. It doesn't always necessarily have to add up to love bombing so give things a reasonable chance if you want to but perhaps set a time limit in your mind for how long you're prepared to 'slow things down' and at what point you feel it is no longer necessary.