Why would a guy

[Nothappy76]

Why would a guy who's cheating for over 3 years still want to be with his full time girlfriend makes no sense why not the cheaters be together and leave her alone? The cheaters love each other but he still acts like he wants his true girlfriend

He doesn’t love the person he is seeing behind his girlfriend’s back.

He stays because he gets his girlfriends full time company, evenings together, weekends, they’ll have sex everyday if they want, nice meals out, holidays.

He might get the thrill or a different sexual experience with the side piece but she’s not good enough to be with full time.

Who are you OP, the bit on the side??
if so, more fool you!!

It sounds like he gets all the comforts at home like dinner, but knows he can still get a cheeky Nando’s and no worry about it.

If the girlfriend is still with him… she’s enabling it unfortunately.

This. Its often the person on the side that gets hurt first and worst.

So are you saying why had the lying cheat Im shagging behind his gf back not kept his word and left her?

That would be because he’s a liar who cones out with any old shit to keep his bit on the side while he plays happy families at home

Find a bit of dignity and self respect and dump his skanky arse. He doesn’t love you, you’re a convenient shag as a distraction

Because the cheaters do not love each other at all - she may love him, but it is not reciprocated I’m afraid. He wants his cosy (and I’m afraid, happy) home life with the GF, and sex on tap but no responsibility with the OW.

Lots of reasons
Too weak emotionally to end a relationship, scared of hurting her but actually the cheating is far worse!
Financial responsibility if kids and home are in the mix, he’ll have to pay maintenance and too much hassle.
He only sees the ow as a bit on the side, doesn’t want a serious relationship with her.
Serial cheat, just totally selfish and likes to sleep around and still wants to be with his gf/wife. Perhaps to keep up appearances with family and friends like he’s a good family man.

Staying with the girlfriend is easier. Saves moving out, starting new and he knows she’ll let him get away with this behaviour.

The affair was more sexual and there may not be longevity for a relationship.

Either way he’s a dirt bag and neither woman should stay with him.

I’d guess OP is the GF. If you are OP, then there’s nothing stopping you from walking away if you don’t want any part of it rather than expecting him to actively ‘leave you alone’.

He's having his cake and eating it. Why would he stop?

I think a more relevant question would be, why does a woman choose to continue to accept crumbs from a man actively abusing (through withdrawal of informed consent, removal of personal agency, manipulation, lying, gaslighting, risk of STIs etc etc) his primary partner for three years? How desperate do you have to be?

Of course he doesn’t love her, he’s not capable of that!

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