To take it seriously if he said he loves me during sex?

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I’ve been seeing a guy for 3-4months, he takes me out for dinner etc and we see each other a few times a week (no labels on anything yet he’s just gone through a divorce and me out of a long term relationship but we both have expressed how we feel about each other.

last night when we were having sex he stopped and looked me in the eyes and told me he was happy that we met and that he loves me, I was caught off guard and didn’t say it back just smiled and kissed him I didn’t know wether to take it seriously as it was during sex but I have definitely fallen for him. Would you overlook it or think he really meant it?

I would be waiting to hear it when he wasn't in the throes!

I’m sure he meant it in the moment. Do you regret not saying it too?

I do a little as I’m hoping he wasn’t upset that I didn’t say it back

Do you love him?

Tbh if I said that to someone during sex and they didn't return same sentiment I'd be more than a little concerned about what I'd got myself into. Otherwise known as freaking out.

I think you need to say it back ❤️

good luck!

Maybe you're just that good at it, you inspire all kinds of feelings.
Wait for him to tell you at a more 'sober' moment.

Some say all sorts of crap in that moment.
Ive heard it countless times and i only have ons.

Things I’ve said in the moment! I’d wait until he says it fully clothed before I could take it seriously.

I take it as the sex is really good talk.

Not to be taken seriously.

Doesn’t count during sex! But I’m sure the real deal will follow shortly xx

I think I do, i don’t think I’ve ever truly been in love before even in my long term relationship with my children’s dad but I think about this guy 24/7 and I’ve never had such intense feelings like this before all i think about is a future with him

Thanks for all the replies. The way he treats me outside the bedroom makes me think he did mean it. Maybe I need to talk to him about it but it does seem like he finds it hard to express his feelings in general

Ask him if he meant it? (When you're not shagging!)

Why is everyone telling her to wait for him to say it again? He’s already said it! if I had said it to a bloke and he didn’t say it back then I sure as hell wouldn’t say it again until that person had told me they love me back. Fair enough if you don’t love him, then don’t say it, but don’t make him keep saying it until you believe him, what a mug off.

I agree OP needs to say it back if she feels it. He may not say it again until she does (I wouldn’t!)

He means he loves shagging you

Men that have done this to me haven't lasted in love, they've been love bombers who get all caught up in the fantasy

However you can ask him when you're sober, do you remember last night you said you loved me. Say more:.:'

If he genuinely feels it he'll jump at the chance to reassure you it's all real

If it’s him that suggested no labels, I’d take it with a pinch of salt, no I wouldn’t believe a man loves me if he doesn’t want a committed relationship.

Think I’ve dodged a huge bullet! This evening I saw he had posted on a Facebook dating page (the actual post was a couple of weeks ago) but he was saying I’m looking for someone genuine to date and start a family (when he told me he doesn’t want anymore kids) why would you be looking for someone to date when you are apparently already “in love” with me lol it’s laughable really that I believed all his bullshit! But now I’m seriously worried as we had unprotected sex and I’m scared if I’ve caught something serious 😔

Just say it yourself during sex if you want to.

Sorry!!! Just saw your update 😔😔

Why did you have unprotected sex?!

Wow wasn't expecting that update, tbf I don't think saying it during sex counts and can't believe how many people thought it did!

Get tested asap. Most likely you’re fine but better to be safe than sorry.