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Contemplating leaving my baby daddy I don’t know what to do

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mol122 · 08/08/2025 00:32

So I have been with my partner coming up to 5 years, we currently have a 2 year old together. Living separately after I left his home where he lives with his mother due to it not working us living together, been through a year of homelessness in hotels, hostels and currently in a temporary flat. Only working 2 days a week and on benefits to keep afloat as he works full time and I stay at home with my baby. He is constantly going on about how he doesn’t get time to do what he wants and makes out I’m basically useless and get to do whatever I want as he works full time baring in mind I have my child everyday he has her 1 evening a week whilst at his mothers house I am in work from 5-7 till she goes to bed and then we co parent over the weekends when he will stay at my house, he has the option to stay with me more busy chooses not to. Says he wants time to himself and I feel like we are separated even when in a relationship, i try to talk to him about my feeling but he always brushes it off, im always the problem, he is never appreciative over how much I do for my daughter and he makes me feel useless and lazy for being a stay at home mother and not working. I feel like because of all of this I am slowly falling out of love with him, I am not wanting to have sex anymore which he is expressing is a problem for him but he doesn’t make me feel loved at all. We have had lots of problems in the past with him being controlling which is one of the reasons I moved out of his mothers house. I don’t know what to do! Do I stay with himin the fear of being alone and having to share my daughter between 2 homes and or break up with him and possibly be happy again. Just wondering if anyone can relate and is going through the same thing?

OP posts:
TaupeMember · 08/08/2025 00:36

Baby daddy?

mol122 · 08/08/2025 00:37

Yes my daughters dad😂

OP posts:
TaupeMember · 08/08/2025 00:40

Im probably old but baby daddy reminds me of 90s jerry springer style scenarios (sorry)

Surely you mean your partner?

I'm sorry, no useful advice except be careful with contraception a d dont whatever you do have any more children until in a more secure situation

Stressmode · 08/08/2025 01:12

Surely “Baby Daddy” refers to a man who fathered a child with a woman with whom he is not/never was in a relationship with… so not a boyfriend, husband, partner or ex?

Anyway, he sounds awful. Leave him, insist on 50:50, focus on your child and when you do date again raise the bar.

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