How can I handle this situation?

[Bulldog01]

My Husband & I have been married 42 years.We are retired.We are not intimate that much now.He struggles to maintain a erection, that kind of puts me off of being intimate.He has prescribed Viagra, which he takes sometimes.It bothers me that he never mentions he has taken them.He then expects me to feel intimate with him, & can get a bit upset,if I turn him down.But although I would like to be intimate, if he looses a erection it puts me off! We are certainly feeling our age, we get tired.My husband also has Rem sleep issues, that may be on the onset of dementia! I really feel quite sad & slightly anxious as I am not sure how to handle it? We have never been the type to kiss & cuddle either where do I go with all this?

If you both want to be intimate and it’s not happening, then somehow you need to communicate what you want to happen. Even if it’s just having a signal that you both understand, or nominating a particular night, like a ‘date night’ would work. It sounds as if you’re both keen, so think of something simple that’ll work for you both.