DH got offered his dream job with a great package. unfortunately it is in asia. we have lived there pre-kids and while I like it, I am feeling sick at the idea of moving there now. we have already taken this year to try out life in my own home country - DH got a job here and so did I so we came here with 2 dcs to try to make a go of it. It has not worked out well and plan B was to go back to the UK, where we were in fact very happy and could give the kids a good quality of life. Now this new opportunity has come up, DH really wants to do it, and I really do not. It would be better for us financially but I'm feeling I can't face moving somewhere new again and going to a place where I will have no job, no friends, and no family around. DC1 was already disrupted by our move to my home country and I think would be very happy to move back to the UK, where he could go back to his old school and his old friends, whereas if we went to Asia it would again be something temporary and very alien.
is there any solution here. am I just being selfish and/or short-sighted. I'm trying to see this DH's way but am feeling black every time I think about it. part of it is guilt over my own family (mom/sis) who don't even know we're thinking of leaving - I cannot imagine saying to them "we're going to Asia" - half a world away. I know they will be upset and not at all supportive. just going on here but if anyone has advice I would love to hear it.