Good morning I would like some advice if you don’t mind sharing your opinions.
Some back ground first - we have solar panels and batteries. So my husband is very particular about energy usage and not wasting it (and being efficient) he says. We spent a lot of money on the panels and batteries and do really well with energy usage but sometimes I think he goes too far with it.
I work three days per week part time but I’ve just started a little business from home and it’s really taken off - because my orders come in throughout the day sporadically I’ve been keeping my computer on save turning it on / and off again when I am dealing with orders and queries. I only do this when I am home (not when out) so last night for example I got home from work switched it on at 4:30 and left it on. I then flitted back and forwards doing other stuff but also dealing with orders etc.
At 6:30 I left the computer to do my daughter dinner and my dinner. My husband came home from work at around 6:50 whilst I was eating mine. He then got changed and headed to the gym. As he was leaving her was “Ruby your computer is on” so I said yes I am going back to it in a minute and he moaned saying turn it off when you leave it. I was “no I’m not going to do that as I do stuff intermittently” as left the house he said “just turn it off otherwise if I notice it’s on I will just turn it off”.
So that really annoyed me so I sent a photo of our smart meter saying 12w and typed “really this is all the energy it uses” he came back with “get your facts straight” so I sent a message back saying “if I left it on ALL day it would cost around 25p” (I had looked this up on google!)
Then ensued back and forth messages (this sounds so pathetic) - he got annoyed that I’d used capitals for the ALL. He also sent me a message “Before you try to be smart, understand things” which angered me further so I retorted with “don’t be a dick”. He then replied with other messages telling me to double down really go for it and this:
”The monitor shows the grid perspective. The batteries are being used and not shown on there.
It’s your block capitals and ! that is so ridiculous, especially when you are so wrong.
Saying to don’t care about wasting energy is going to annoy me”. (I never said that by the way)
It went back and forth some more and I got so frustrated in the end I said I had more important things to be doing than arguing about something so ridiculous. He then accused me of belittling him.
when he came home from the gym I’d cooked his dinner and left it warming in the oven (this was around 9pm). No thank you from him got his dinner and took it in the lounge.
I went in and said I’d be the bigger person but straight away his reply was I was in the wrong. So it didn’t go very well from there in. I accused him of just trying to control a narrative and because I was going against that this was his reaction.
I did end up calling him a tight arse and a penny pincher. He just accused me of belittling his feelings. I went to bed and we ain’t speaking!
All this over a 25p cost!
I would be grateful of your helpful opinions I know it’s the most tedious argument and thank you if you made it to the end!