Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Husbands sister arguing with us because she isn’t a bridesmaid?!

7 replies

MichelleRodriguezxx · 06/08/2025 22:00

Husbands sisters have previously told me they do not support my marriage. They have told me they are never going to lose their brother to me, (wierd) and said they cry themself to sleep because they can’t call their brother anymore. When my husband said they can absolutely call whenever, they have not done so. Not once. It’s all games.

They are very annoyed we have our own life. We have to explain reasons of what why when, when we can’t make every single celebration. For eg a birthday recently we didn’t have the money to go to as it was $1,000 a night and we got told “thought you’d show up. You used to show up?”

Obviously they’re painting me as the bad guy. Most recently the older sister text my husband today saying we are treating them like they are nothing, that they should be in the wedding, my husband replied but it should be my last wife’s closest people her like her ride or dies and she said but we are your ride or dies. They have zero interest in having a relationship with me, I extended and invited them to my wedding dress shopping, one didn’t show up. Now there making my husband feel terrible.

Am I obliged to have them, should they be putting this kind of pressure on my husband. I really don’t see why they think they should be part of it, if they don’t like me. It’s like keeping up with the jones, always some drama.

OP posts:
Aria2015 · 06/08/2025 22:05

They sound emeshed and unless your partner has firm boundaries in place, this is not a problem that is going to go away any time soon. In fact, likely to worsen, especially if you have kids. So just be wary.

As for the wedding. You are not obliged to have them as bridesmaids. That's a position for people who are close to the bride. I personally wouldn't want to pander to them, but if you were inclined to, you could let them do a reading maybe.

multisurf · 06/08/2025 22:16

Confusing. If you’re not yet married why do you refer to your husband?

Sounds like your boyfriend’s sisters are hard work.

LittleGreenDragons · 06/08/2025 22:27

You mention husband and marriage then start talking about your wedding. Very confusing post OP but the bottom line is - you have a DH/DP problem. He needs to put in firm boundaries and if he won't then your relationship will remain problematic until you separate.

MyDeftHedgehog · 06/08/2025 22:41

They sound batshit and I would be cutting them off completely

Wishingplenty · 06/08/2025 22:47

Do you have any brothers op? It is so often the case that women that have no brothers of their own, are unable to understand the brother/sister sibling relationship, and that is why that relationship usually gets destroyed when a man marrys a brotherless wife.

bookworm1982 · 06/08/2025 22:51

They cry themself to sleep because they can’t call their brother any more? wtf?

also, why do they hate you so much? There must be a reason why you don’t get on.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 06/08/2025 22:55

Is he your husband yet or not? It’s confusing. But I wouldn’t want them in my wedding either (or maybe renewal 🤷‍♀️)

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread