Been sent evidence my partner has been unfaithful

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Received a message today from a friend’s exbf, with photos of messages sent between her and my partner. They may not actually have had sex (no evidence) but it was definitely on the agenda. There had been kissing and physical intimacy. These messages are from 3 years ago when DS was 4, and we’ve since had another child. Partner and friend’s ex were also friends of sorts. Friend’s ex had told partner he had evidence and to tell me, else he would. This was most recently discussed a couple of months ago, according to the screenshots I have seen. I haven’t responded to friend’s ex, and don’t intend to. What would you do now?

It might be a 'revenge' tell, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen.

I'm so sorry.

I'm not sure I could forgive such a betrayal from my partner.

If the ex is acting out of spite he may have already sent a screenshot of him telling you to them. Don't let your feelings towards him override the proof he's sent you - your friend and partner have been having sex (or as good as) behind your back more than once. Tread carefully.

Does it matter why he told you? The fact is it happened.

That's awful and that you think your "friends" know too is even worse. None of them are worth your time.

I think you only have one question that you yourself need to answer, "Do I want to try and salvage my marriage or not"? For me personally, cheating is a deal breaker and I would start plans on exiting the marriage.

Good luck OP.