My dh finds it very hard to say no to other people. As a consequence, he often double books himself. For example, a friend will phone and ask if he fancies a game of golf on Monday morning and dh will agree to meet them. He'll then tell me he's playing golf on Monday morning and I'll reply 'haven't you got a dentist/drs/appointment on Monday?" Dh will then check his calendar, phone golf friend and say 'sorry, I've just spoken to my wife and she says I can't play golf on Monday.' He omits to tell them that it's because he has other commitments. I've told him how the way he says this to people makes it sound as if I am stopping him from going out and his friends must think I'm a right ogre but he tells me that I'm reading too much into it. This happens a lot and I'm now considering not telling him if he's double booked - I'm fed up of him blaming it on me - but am I being mean?