Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Feeling so sad!

1 reply

FluentTealEagle · 04/08/2025 16:14

Me and my husband have at times over the last year or so not got on well - although there are more times that we do get on really well. Recently when something minor annoys him he very quickly gets annoyed and will say things which are v hurtful like "who would want to be with you", you are "crazy / have issues" ect.

I have probably then been trying to avoid any conflict as it gets heated so quickly and put it down to stress with work / money ect.
He has been working away and only coming back on Sundays, staying at my parents house. I was due to go on Friday as 2 of our kids were staying there for a few days and I was collecting them but when about to leave he sent a message suggesting we don't go.

I still left to collect them and he then seemed to try to cause an argument in any way possible and sent some really nasty messages - in the end my dad met me halfway with the kids.

He ended up going out all night and he went to a local nightclub at some point and there are pictures of him dancing with a girl on their website which I saw this morning. I just feel so sad and deflated by everything and meant to be going on holiday with the kids on Saturday but i'm struggling to focus on getting work done ect.

We are in our 30's and have 3 kids and I wouldn't have expected this - he came home and on Sunday we went out for the day and it was nice.

He's staying with my family which is who I would usually talk to so can't really talk with them while he is there and i'm just feeling soo sad.

OP posts:
Whataloadof2020 · 04/08/2025 18:33

FluentTealEagle · 04/08/2025 16:14

Me and my husband have at times over the last year or so not got on well - although there are more times that we do get on really well. Recently when something minor annoys him he very quickly gets annoyed and will say things which are v hurtful like "who would want to be with you", you are "crazy / have issues" ect.

I have probably then been trying to avoid any conflict as it gets heated so quickly and put it down to stress with work / money ect.
He has been working away and only coming back on Sundays, staying at my parents house. I was due to go on Friday as 2 of our kids were staying there for a few days and I was collecting them but when about to leave he sent a message suggesting we don't go.

I still left to collect them and he then seemed to try to cause an argument in any way possible and sent some really nasty messages - in the end my dad met me halfway with the kids.

He ended up going out all night and he went to a local nightclub at some point and there are pictures of him dancing with a girl on their website which I saw this morning. I just feel so sad and deflated by everything and meant to be going on holiday with the kids on Saturday but i'm struggling to focus on getting work done ect.

We are in our 30's and have 3 kids and I wouldn't have expected this - he came home and on Sunday we went out for the day and it was nice.

He's staying with my family which is who I would usually talk to so can't really talk with them while he is there and i'm just feeling soo sad.

Hey, are you now seperated? Its just a bit unclear as he is working away.

It sounds like imo, he is keeping you at arms length.

How long has this been happening?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page