Help advise needed, ref Porn & online commenting

[Missbusybody91]

Hi all new to the page and really after some advice, this maybe a long one so settle down.
I’ve been with my partner 10 years and we’ve always openly talked about how we both watch porn! I’m not shy to admit that sometimes the need arises and he’s not around! Anyway it came to light the other week that he’s been paying to watch on only fans! (I found out as he accidentally used our joint card) I was about to get on the phone to the bank and he confessed it was him! He was incredibly embarrassed and apologetic. Then a few weeks later I come across his treads account (never really used the app myself but I have one) and I can see he’s been commenting on pictures saying gorgeous etc (although I can’t see the pictures only his comments) and that triggered another conversation. I got upset and again he apologised saying he really didn’t mean to upset me. Now my question is.. knowing he watches porn am I justified to feel betrayed that he pays for it? And do you consider commenting on pics ok or a form of cheating? I know he’s never physically cheated on me he’s absolutely not that kind of guy but now I’m just second guessing our whole relationship.
thanks for reading

I think the comments he's putting are unacceptable given that he's in a relationship. It's like he's saying 'hey, notice me". I wouldn't say commenting in itself is cheating, but by commenting, he's getting their attention which could get more personal with DMs. There's no need to comment, unless it is to draw attention to yourself, surely?

I think once you start paying for it, it elevates the importance of the experience, from just "a temporary itch that must be scratched" to something worthwhile and meaningful. That's a bit weird, considering how much free content is available.

Last year I found out that my partner of 7 years was paying for onlyfans. Left him the same day, he moved out of our flat a month later. It is so, so disrespectful. I don’t regret it.