Are their such men

[Nothappy76]

Are their such men who are serial cheaters? And still tell you they love you to your face after what they do or am I just mentally messed up thinking this

Yes, there are serial cheaters who will tell their (supposedly exclusive) partners they love them after cheating repeatedly. In fact I suspect there are very few serial cheaters who don't do that.

Of course there are, there are threads on here everyday about it.

My ex was like this, he had the audacity to also say he respects me so much! Makes me laugh now how I used to fall for it.
I got rid of him and with time am totally over him.

Yes, there are. They are disordered and they will never change. They are unable to feel real love. I'm sorry you've encountered them. Learn to identify the signals and get them out of your life 🙏

Yes there are serial cheating and lying men and women and also loyal and faithful men and women.

Yes, and women too.

Don’t forget the threads where the women are all set for him top “change” and just want to know when that will be. Oh, and the “fight for your man” women who will go toe to toe over “Bazza” because it must be someone else fault they’ve married a serial shagger.

Of course there are. I had an ex boyfriend who cheated on every girlfriend he had, then cheated on his wife (I believe it was with seven different women). He needed constant validation to self soothe. I think he loved his girlfriends and then wife at the time but his love wasn’t the love you’d want as his need for the highs from cheating meant he was unsafe.

Yes there are. I have known a couple. Come to that, there are women too. DW's best mate for one.

It can be true. My husband genuinely loved me but he cheated all the time.

And the married man I nearly had an affair with at a very low point (I pulled back in the end - but I did let it go too far) - he was very clear that he loved his wife, and claimed to love me as welll. He had a theory about the stags and the hinds - that men can love multiple people. (Yes, he was a complete self-deluding tosser).

Many people cheat for a pass time and still swear up and down that they love their wife/husband/partner.

They are able to remain married/in a relationship, show affection to their partner, be intimate with them, behave completely normally and yet be having a whole separate relationship with someone else in some cases.

When caught they always claim it was 'a mistake', 'meant nothing', 'was just sex' etc when actually they saw the affair partner weekly, watched tv together, told them they loved them, cooked together, went out for dinner, went for walks, fixed things around the house and many other things they also do with you. Some of these affairs go on for years.

There are many people out there like this. Everyone wants to believe that their cheating spouse is one of the very few who just made a mistake and it was just physical but it's much more likely they are a common or garden cheat as described above.

People who are like this just genuinely don't think there is anything wrong with cheating. They are aware it's not socially acceptable which is why they hide it and lie to you when caught but they don't actually believe it's wrong deep down. They truly believe they should be allowed to have both their marriage and their girlfriend/boyfriend because that's what makes them happy and that's what they want. If you stay with someone like this they either do it again a few years later once you're 'over it' or spend the rest of their life sulking and feeling resentful if you maintain a high level of surveillance over their phone and their movements.

Feeling mentally messed up is a very common consequence of being in a relationship with someone like this.