I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and feel things have gone a little flat. I know relationships involve work, but I just feel maybe we’ve ran our course now.
definitely the past 6 months the intimacy has dried up and I feel it’s only when I say comments like ‘we are more like mates’ that’s when something will be instigated.
tbh, I don’t even try to instigate anything in the bedroom anymore because now I’m actually not bothered myself.
It makes it even more difficult because my boyfriend is a really nice guy, but he’s always struggled emotionally connecting with me and has felt a lot of the time I’m putting all the work in and getting the bare minimum back.
we have such a great time together planning things etc, but if I’m being truly honest with myself those things I could either do alone or with friends.
when I bring anything like this up, he is totally shocked and doesn’t understand what I mean.
he’s never had a relationship over 5 years and now I know why.
I feel so bad, but I’m not sure I feel fully fulfilled anymore.
i kind of feel we are at the do or die stage. We don’t really plan for the future in terms on moving in together etc and I’m just wondering where it’s even going. I’m very much a person who feels if things aren’t working then what’s the point.
Do I express my feelings and concerns (without sounding like a broken record again)
or just call it a day?