Splitting up, I'm the one moving out... I need to pack but feel mentally drained. Hoe did others handle this massive task?

[Theuniversalshere1]

Looking for advice. My house sale will complete soon. Need to pack but things are heavy at home, still a lot of nagging from his side. I have been staying as my sisters a lot and get out the house. He never seems to leave... he works from home and doesn't see friends often.

I need to pack but feel mentally exhausted, I have enough for work then nothing else it seems.

How did others handle mental drainedness when having to do mammoth task of packing up life from 6 year relatio ship breakdown?

Don’t try to do it all alone! Pay the removals company to pack. Get your sister and family over for a ‘packing and pizza party’ day. Either way, set aside some time to blitz it, don’t try to tag a bit of it onto the end of other days. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed but if you feel you’re not alone, the load will be so much lighter

Try to keep the end goal in sight: soon you will be free; you'll be in a new home which will not be sullied by the arguments/bad feeling/ memories of your current home. Freedom!

Packing up can be hard - but you just need to keep going, step by step, to get to that end goal - as as the PP said, you could pay someone else to do it or involve friends. Or you can set a timer, put some uplifting and inspiring music on, and do 30mins every day. Find whatever works for you - and just do it!

Consider what you want to take too - will you go through every item, discussing/ arguing over who bought eg the cutlery or can you afford to take just the big, expensive items you own plus your personal possessions? If you can afford to buy new pictures etc for your new place that can be fun and you can buy entirely to your own taste.

It will all be worth it once you're in your new home.

Is there a room you can put all your stuff in and then go round with someone else to just pack in one fell swoop?

Well done OP. Sounds like you are on the final straight of a drawn out draining separation. Holding it together to manage work is awesome. It’s no wonder you have not much energy for too much else. Not normal service.
Packing is a total PIA. If you can afford it get a removal company. If not blitz it in a day with friends and family. Just be honest and say you’re exhausted and dreading it but needs must and could they possibly help as hard to face alone seeing as Cheery always about.
Once you summit packing make sure and get the largest bottle of your favourite 🤩 tipple and wee takeaway with the girls. Good luck 🍀

Im a minimalist.
I dont own very much so for me it would be only the things i really wanted to take.
Starting fresh is sometimes best, why keep things that remind you of the bad times.

I once had a neighbour that was leaving her husband after a divorce but the amount of stuff she wanted was unreal.
Table chairs dresser side cupboard wardrobes mats kitchen stuff etc plus what she wanted from the loft and shed.
i get we are all different but id rather do a clean sweep.
My aunty about 30 year ago had to move from her ex and she just got her clothes and about 3 boxs put them in the back of my dads car that was that.
I could not understand why she left everything but she said she wanted to start fresh and its best not to have to much just in case shit hits the fan.
As the years went on i understood what she was on about.

Twenty five years of stuff for me. I decluttered the obvious crap. Everything else I left to the removals people. I had to put most of it in storage (covid meant i moved in with elderly parent). I sold all the furniture a few years afterwards - went straight from storage to the auction house. The remainder is still sitting in boxes in the garage. I have no idea what's in them after all this time.

Small stages. Order boxes now. Dont shop around just get some off Amazon. When they arrive, just build one straight away, and fill it. Little steps. Don't look at it as the mammoth task of packing, it's a 30 second job to order boxes, then it's just 5 minutes to fill a box.

And from experience, tape down the kids well and don't label I if you want to know what's in each write a, b, c on each and keep a list. At some point the git is going to start arguing over a potato peeler or some such shit and you don't want him looking through unpacking boxes.

Honestly? I’d have some alcohol but that’s me I get weirdly productive on Prosecco and comfortably numb. Stick a podcast on and then you’re not alone with your thoughts. Been there done that. It’s rubbish.

Thanks all some really good ideas and I like the idea of just one box at a time... I can do it. It just feels so overwhelming at this time.

Get plenty of cardboard boxes and do one room a day, a room doesn’t take that long to pack, do a big clear out as you are doing it so you can start your life afresh in the new place

Thank you so much everybody, I put a fire under.my ass and made a start, I got loads done, in 2 hours whilst ex is out... I'm going to try and get an hour to two hours done a day and hopefully it'll be sorted in a week. They want to keep a lot of stuff, they welcome to it! I am off some time too so can really make a massive start. I feel lighter already. Some good tunes and a cuppa and jobs getting done.

@Theuniversalshere1 great 👏 job… tunes a cracking idea…