one of best friends is having real difficulties with her 15yr old son. He has been very disruptive at school, refusing to go to classes, squaring up to teachers when challenged, wandering off school premises whenever he feels like it. School tried lots of tactics, reduced timetables, trusted adult availability etc. Things reached a head a few months ago and he now point blank refuses to attend school.
my friend has made herself so ill with anxiety and worry for him, she’s lost 2st. Her dh is completely unsupportive- has a very poor relationship with his son. Rules with an iron fist. She is piggy in the middle at home and spends her days walking on egg shells.
so, my dilemma is that my son, also 15 confided in me that her son is into carting, the really strong weed vapes. This May explain some of his behaviour, but it is well known in the year group that he is hooked on them. I don’t want to break my son’s confidence, but I also feel terrible that I know about her son and she doesn’t.
I’ve just had a call from my older son, he’s on an evening out with girlfriend and has seen the teen son with older lads, 20-23yrs olds and well known drug dealers. There is a gang of them, the teen son being the youngest. My son said hi to him and didn’t seem shy that he’d been seen with them.
we live in a fairly quiet part of Scotland, and now my mind is wurring as to whether he’s mixed up in county lines etc? Although he doesn’t attend school, he is constantly out and about spending money. Where is he getting it from? He doesn’t have a part time job…
so - I’m in a quandary as to what to do. Should I tell my friend knowing I’ll break her heart and potentially drive a wedge between us. I would want to know if it was my son, but I do wonder how she would take it.