Dating with hsv2….anyone in the same boat?

[daisyflowersx]

Been single 2 years, had hsv2 for 9 years- gifted to me by my lovely exh.

Now divorced, healed, had a huge glow up and feeling like it might be time to start dating again but this hsv2 is hanging over my head like a black cloud. I would of course 100% tell any potential future partner about it and would never get intimate with anyone without them knowing first but I can’t ever imagine me telling someone I have it - the anxiety is real.

Even if they accepted it, I’d probably ruin the relationship myself by thinking deep down they were actually bothered by it.

I’ve had my heart broken enough and my confidence is better than it’s ever been, I feel like rejection could put me in a really dark place - not really sure if it’s worth it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anyone in the same boat? Or has been with a positive outcome?

X

Sorry I have no advice on this, I don't know what HSV2 is, just bumping for evening traffic for you x

Thanks, it’s nothing something many people would want to admit to having so I’m not surprised at the lack of response lol

Is HSV herpes? I’ve definitely seen a few posts on this before. Maybe if you search you’ll find them as some good advice. It is very difficult i’d imagine when meeting someone new, but lots of people do have it and do manage to date etc.

Yeah it is.

I know it’s so common, they say 1 in 5 now have hsv2 which is a huge amount of people, it’s just the stigma that comes with it is horrible. I dunno, I know I’ll just have to face it but it takes away all the fun of dating. I tend to go into panic mode about it every few months.

I didn't understand the acronym either until you explained. HSV2 sounds like you live too close to a potential railway line. 😅
Presumably it goes into remission like coldsores? I'd talk it through with potential partners before sex but after you've got to know them a bit. It's probably going to make it a longer process but it'll be worth it when you find that special someone.

Hi there. Sorry to hear about your gift. I was the same. Positive singles is the big one although expensive and mostly USA and Canada. Some UK people. Tingler is a more UK based site and is cheap and cheerful.
I have also been open and upfront on mainstream dating sites about H and had little interest. On mainstream dating the nature has changed of the way it operates so with so much choice it's easier to chose someone that doesn't have Herpes. I get it , but it's not very encouraging. Anyway hope this is of some help. Graham. 54.

I know a few people, both m and f who have it. Not sure if it's 1 or 2. I know that they've got partners who are fine with it. I am sure you will find most people can see it's just about avoiding Vaginal sex if there's an outbreak. It is fairly common I think.

I wish you the best x

Wouldn't bother me op!