DP on girls online.

[Hubble81]

Hi all, please be gentle as I am so embarrassed about this.
So a bit of back ground, I started seeing my DP over a year ago. We have a lovely time and he's great in many ways. I cant really complain about anything.
However, when we first started dating I noticed that he followed A LOT of girls on tik tok. And I am talking thousands of half naked women. He had been single for a while he says and basically just followed them over a few years. I told him I found it gross and he deleted all of them. He hasn't followed any new accounts since we have been together so I was okay about it.
So fast forward and I noticed he very rarely complimented me.
And after a while it started to bother me a bit, so I checked his Tik Tok account for his comments and he had made loads of comments on womens videos (all models) all probably filtered to crap about how beautiful they were.
One saying "you are the most beautiful thing I have ever seen."
Stunning etc.
This was all before he met me, so him commenting isn't the issue. I mean its shit because I am a middle aged, slightly pudgy mum of two and I am not like these women at all and it is creepy behaviour. But I guess he was single and bit desperate. 🙄
What I am upset about is he never tells me I am beautiful. Never really compliments me. Other than to tell me he loves me.
He has never told me I am stunning but so easily says it to strangers online.
Like I day this was all before we met and I probably shouldn't have snooped. But I just wanted to see if he just didn't have it in him or he just couldn't compliment me.

And there it was comments just telling these women how beautiful they were.
Am I being totally rediculous?
Like I say everything else about our relationship is really great, he shows up, prioritises me, we are planning a future together and its all very grown up and normal. But this has really hurt. 🙁

I just feel really shit about myself I could never match upto these women as half of them weren't even real you could see it was AI. 🙄

Advice or anything please.😔

Don’t feel shit about yourself! The women on those accounts are dressing / using make up and filters that aren’t realistic or real life.

He was flirting and complimenting them to get attention that’s all and he’s not done it since you’ve been together.

In my experience it’s not often in relationships then men compliment …. Don’t take it personally x

The only reason you need to feel shit about yourself is for dating a lecherous creep, gullible enough to perve over heavily filtered thirst traps. You do realise that many of them are sex workers or Only Fans cam models. I bet he has an OF account too.

That's why I am embarrassed. For him to be so stupid to think these women are real is so tragic.
I know most of them will have OF and I know he had an account in the past he told me.
This was all before me apparently and I guess him telling me makes me think he thinks this behaviour is pretty normal.

Thank you. I try to be rational about it. I have quite low confidence due to having an awful divorce a few years ago. Left for a much younger woman. So I am always on full alert to stuff like this.

Online women rinse fools like this.your the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.
Who calls a woman a thing

Yep exactly what I thought. I felt sick.😔