After the affair-today we celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary!

[maturer]

Hi all,
Regulars will remember my tale. It's coming up to 5 years since I first found MN in the despair of coping with the news that my dh was having an affair with a work collegue. My life fell apart and in the year that followed my dh nearly threw away the great life we'd built with our 3 lovely children!

Today we are still tigether and it's 20 years since we got married (26 together as a couple)We are closer and stronger having got through this awful time.

I just wanted to say a big thankyou to ALL the many MNetters who over the years, especially in the immediate year after- supported and guided me to give me the strength to deal with this trauma in my life. A speciall thakyou to Kath and Karen who became good friends in our shared grief!

To those of you surrviving a similar trauma my heart goes out to each of you every time I read another story. I cannot promise a happy ending to all but I just wanted to say it is possible to move on and very slowly make a better life together.

To my dh (who sometimes reads MN)I KNOW just how sorry you are for what you did and how you acted in that year when you "lost the plot". Every day you show me by your actions just how sorry you are and how thakful you are to me for not giving up on us at that time.Now most of the time I look forward to our life together and move away from that awful time in the past.Happy anniversary!x

Congratulations, maturer! Bet it feels all the sweeter for having survived the bad times.

Happy Anniversary

You've been an amazing source of strength and support for many people on here maturer.

In my early days as mylittlestar, and right through until now, you've helped me, and hundreds of people on here! And I know each and every one will be as grateful as me.

I'm so pleased you got your happy ending

Congratulations to you both. x

Congratulations to both of you.

Oh wow - what a post - am all teary reading that!

I remember you maturer (though your first post slightly predates mine ). Congratulations! Though neither of us has had an affair dh and I have been to hell and back more than once, and like you it has made us stronger.

Well done both of you. I'm glad you have been able to survive this and move on

Very nice to hear.
(Miaou, how is your dh and his job going?)

congratulations on your anniversary

Me and dh have had our fair of strife in this way and we are still together so just to let everyone going through the same thing know... it is possible to forgive and get through it

"fair share of strife"

1st time I've admitted that on Mumsnet, that's how touching the OP was

(dh is doing really well, he feels better now than he has done all his adult life and is loving his job )

Sorry for hijack!

maturer, how amazing, thank you for posting. My DH left for an affair 2 months ago, and I only hear stories about how it doesn't work out. It is so great to hear a good story. I so hope mine turns out that way...

Congratulations - Have a great day

Your story has given me, and I am sure many others, hope that a happy ending is possible. Your posts have often helped me through a bad day and what you have written above made me cry (but then it has been one of those days).

Well done for the hard work and staying power! x

Lovely post.

Many congrtulations.

xxx

Warmest congratulations from me too Maturer, I remember your posts
No affair here either but we have been buffeted by stillbirth and depression, and are still very much a partnership despite it all
I hope you and your dh are having the very happy celebrations you deserve

Thanks to all for your kind words and good wishes.We had a lovely meal out last night with our 3 children (who are all high school age)It was great we both enjoyed each others company and that of our kids who have turned into 3 lovely young people and are fun to be with.
Onwards and upwards!

Maturer
Sorry i missed this eariler - internet probs.

I am so glad you made it - you have truely been a great help to me through these last couple of years.
My h followed the script that i know yours did and it was great to be able to get comfort in the fact that you knew how i was feeling.

So congrats and a big thankyou for being there in my hours of need.

ps it is our 19th next week!

Maturer, just to say that I remember your threads and I am so touched by this post, it has brought tears to my eyes!
Thank you for sharing this encouraging and happy-ending tale of surviving.
Congratulations on your anniversary!