Pinch point at 3/4 month stage of relationship

[MrsGuyOfGisbo]

I’ve been reflecting on this because other friends have mentioned the ‘3month’ mark.
It seems that regardless of when you have sex, some men do just cool off around that time when the initial excitement wears off and the reality of being in a relationship becomes a reality.
I’m 4 months into a relationship (met in RL) that has been very intense and lots of fun, lots of shared interests, friends in common etc, but over the last couple of weeks have sensed a slackening in the timing of messages and less interests in booking in meet/up dates. It wasn’t love bombing and he is genuinely nice person in this case, but I think the reality is that it’s at this point that it becomes a potential term relationship involving family etc where the doubts emerge.
So as not to drip feed, in my case he is a widower, but other friend have had this with single dnd divorced men, (Probably married ones as well but they don’t reveal that 😀😀)
Would be interested to know if others have found the same and how they navigated that time.
(It reminds me of when I was advising small companies that grew rapidly and there was x pinch point where they got to a size where the management needed structuring and many people found that an uncomfortable time of transition and adaptation.)

I haven’t dated for a while but from friends experiences I think this is a bit of a juncture.

In this case if he’s a widower maybe just hang on in there and let it take its course rather than panicking and asking where this going etc. You may just need to go at a slower pace. Give him a bit of space, keep up your own hobbies and social life and don’t invest too much (although at this point it’s natural to do so) and see how it goes.

I think 3 months is quite early for the honeymoon period to end and also to meet family. Have you talked about the future and are you both ok with the pace of the relationship? If he’s a widower it’s a lot to process and it might take him longer?
I’ve never met any partners family at 3 months. It usually takes longer to see if you’re compatible and this is the time you should be spending getting to know each other first before bringing in awful Cousin x who everyone just about tolerates!
Perhaps slow down and have a conversation about how you’re feeling? It’s a good opportunity to see if you can be open about your feelings and what his response is.

Thank you so much for these!
Yes am not pushing and (as I was a school teacher😀) I frame things positively eg - ‘It’s a great buzz when my watch pings with a message from you 😀’ rather than a ‘you’re messaging less’
I won’t spoil things by being too demanding. For context we are part of a wider friendship group and do a lot with mutual friends. All very easy and natural.