Hi there...Ladies and Gents. Guy in 30s here. Possibly a common theme in modern day dating etc.. But I find myself some what conflicted.. I fairly recently started chatting with somebody on a dating app. About 6 weeks back, give or take a day or two. We met about a week after talking.. and have hit it off, she has a young ish child with an ex, so throughout the week its hard to meet up, but we've made good use of the weekends. Been out a few times, and I have stayed a few times.
Tbf, its all been fairly relaxed, not suggesting by any means its a fling or a series of ONS etc. But conversely we have taken it slowly ish..and met up at the weekends. And enjoyed each others company! We've a few mutual interests and havent been at all bored or run out of things to do or say etc.. which is refreshing.. Its just been nice and chilled, but romantic at the same time. However this weekend just gone.. I was quite unwell (24 hour bug i think 🤔😔) and she was cool with it.. and said she'd made plans anyway for the Saturday..so no issue.. we exchange messages through the day, but not to thr extreme.
Few days ago however, she didnt message at all..so i gave some space and sent a courtesy txt bit later on, which she did reply to.a while later..all seemed ok, and asked if I wanted to come round.. But it wasn't practical.. as it was nearly 10.30 and she live a good 20 minutes away. Again seemed fine and accepted it was late for a week day.. but following day a few 'polite messages exchanged but its almost as if she's replying out of necessity and would rather not.. and today not a single bit of contact.. I have learned from a past experience NOT to over do it..and space is essential at times.. I understand this. She doesn't seem to the type of person to just ghost somebody, and vanish off without a reason.. this has happened to me when I was a bit younger..and it was hurtful at the time. But I was much younger and didnt think as rationally then.
So as I say, I dont want to be a pain/pest and inundate her whattsap with 'hey/whats up/you ok? ..but it seems very out of character, given that we've chatted most days for weeks and spent quality time together... I have a slightly ridiculous imagination at times, so played out some scenarios in my head that shes met somebody else, or panicked that its too 'casual or slow moving' etc . I feel conflicted..as to whether I send another message or leave her to it for a while till she initiates contact.. it sounds ridiculous as I feel at my age, I should know better than this bothering me.
I feel as though its probably run its course in her mind, and shes maybe finding the way/time to tell me! But then part of me also thinks 'ffs dude calm down its been a few days out of 6 weeks' stop fretting.. anyway I assume some others have experienced this too in early stages or dating .. Any opinions welcome.
Al