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Why do I feel so much guilt

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Justme2025 · 29/07/2025 09:39

I feel so much of the unknown
I’ve broken up with my baby’s dad.
I have 2 teenage daughters.
my ex had a great relationship with my middle daughter.
when I broke up with him he was nasty said horrible things took my baby and demanded to have 50/50 even though he had no where to stay etc …
he’s since got a room.
he’s been “ok” I’ve said I only want to communicate about the baby she’s 1. He WAS bombarding me with message especially asking for money now this has all stopped and it’s like he’s just being normal with me.
SO much has happened he’s hardly seeing our baby only when it suits.
mediation is involved but waiting for appointments….
my teenage daughter is now feeling like she’s lost a huge part of her life and feeling sad which I get but now I feel like I’m in the wrong for doing this to my family …
I feel sad that it hasn’t worked out but when I look back I was a SHADOW of myself he used to control me without me realising …I was showing my girls that this relationship was acceptable and I wouldn’t want them ina. Relationship like that.
it’s so bloody hard.
I’ve said she can hve a relationship with him as he’s her sisters dad but I dunno how that works or I feel like he doesn’t deserve that …..
oh god my head is a MESS

OP posts:
Girlmom35 · 29/07/2025 11:38

You've just taken a huge step towards creating a better life for yourself and a better example for your daughter.
Be kind to yourself.
You deserve to have some time to proecss and figure this all out. It's alright if you don't have all the answers now.

Allow yourself to feel sad. Feeling it is how we process it.
But remember why you're going through this sadness now. You're working towards something. Keep that in mind.

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