Leaving for good

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So after 3 years of ups and downs and having a two year old together and being in a relationship with a man with alcoholism which is his dad finally coming to an end as Mumsnet has really helped me to realise how silly I’ve been and also telling me to be stronger and leave for good and after my son birthday today has been the final straw and how selfish and sickly his dad truly is. Not taking our son feelings into any consideration and truly shown that again today I’m so fed up and feeling so much guilt for my son and stupidly enough my partner but he hasn’t changed if anything he’s worse and I can’t live like this any longer 😩 how do I cope with the guilt?

I think us mums feel guilt over so many things we shouldn’t.

I ended my marriage and had 4 young children. I felt guilt at the time but 12 years on and the children are grown up I realise I shouldn’t feel guilt I should feel proud of myself.

if I can help you skip the years of guilt and go straight to the proud stage that would be amazing.
Being a single mum is hard and a lot at times. But I promise that you aren’t just ending this relationship for yourself. Your child will have a happier home life if they are in a calm stress free environment.
Of course in an ideal world we would all provide the safe loving security that a happy mum and dad bring but sometimes things are out of our control.
concentrate on yourself and your child.
Your life will be so much greater without the burden and stress of a marriage like this.
My girls have very happy memories of our time in our all girl home. It’s only me who felt the sadness and that makes me know I did the right thing
sending you hugs. 🤗

Walk away x just wake up and realise how much more important your kids life and time is and birthdays should be memorable x

Definitely I’ve just had enough of it all now and I just look at my son and feel really sorry for him and that he doesn’t deserve any of this, and his birthday last year wasn’t that great either it’s all just been a waste of time xx