Things in my marriage have come to a head after a rocky last 6 months.
During that time, my husband and I have argued more frequently. Small things are normally the start but we return to the same issue - he can be dismissive of my feelings and extremely cutting with what he says. There is a reluctance to take accountability for his words and when I try to say how I feel, I'm met with indifference. As a result, my confidence has taken a huge knock.
I understand relationships are a two way street; I'm not perfect and will say things in moments of upset or anger. I do, however, always hold my hands up and admit when I'm in the wrong.
I lost a parent very young. As a result, I've struggled with anxiety and bouts of severe OCD. I appreciate this is not easy to live with. I have done therapy for this and on the whole it is better. However, it's no doubt caused issues in our relationship. I don't feel like I receive any sort of compassion, support or understanding but I do wonder if I'm unreasonable to expect this.
We have a young child and a baby due early next year. A few weeks ago, after an argument my husband told me he couldn't be the person I needed to support me with my anxiety and there was no point him trying as he could never solve it - not that I've ever expected that. He told me his feelings for me have changed. Looking back, I can see if he did truly love or respect me, he would not speak to me in such a way, or be so dismissive and indifferent.
He's a wonderful dad but I know that's not enough of a reason to stay. I want my children to see their parents treat each other with kindness and respect, not growing up in an atmosphere of sadness and resentment.
At present we are taking time apart. I'm at a loss regarding a way forward.